what's the appeal of going abroad/desi identity crisis

[kannuma]

ive lived outside india practically my whole life, so i really cant say much. but what is the reason ppl want to get out of india. why is it regarded as such a status symbol? true my parents left india, but that was because of family reasons, which i cannot divulge further. that was our reason.
furthermore, why do desis, living in india try to act as if theyve not lived there or try to disengage themselves from their desiness.
take for example this instance:
my cousin went to this girl's marriage. there she wa sputting on this fake american accent, while she had been in india all her life. when my cousin asked how come she had an american accent, she was all offended and said 'typical madras attitude. i hate madras. i just hate it'(her lovely personality really seems to have shone through). my cousin was like no, its not that bad. she said she was dying to get out of india, after all, whi'c stay there.
why do desis have this self loathing? and then look down upon desis who have lived abroad most their lives. apparently living abroad most your life makes you less of an indian(even though we might know more about our culture,religion etc etc than those who look down upon us), but at the same time desis are dying to get out of india.
this sounds very strange and is very paradoxical to me. please share your views