An issue

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Originally Posted by Shekhar

Well it needed a PP mam to see both sides of the coin.

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No two words about it !! I really admired the way she summarized the whole issue. But personally, I'm yet to be convinced as regards surrogacy. May be because I have associated with childless couples who have resorted to adoption without qualms - and I have seen how wonderfully the children and those parents share their love and affection with each other. I have also associated with parents like you who have chosen adoption despite of having their own child(ren). It's so encouraging and motivating. I personally feel that there should be as more counselors as possible to advice and encourage childless couples on adoption , as I - without any doubts consider it - as the best option available for them

And I rest my case !!

Shekhar, you have illustrated lucidly just why you are such an adorable gentleman!!!! Thank you for stepping into my shoes and looking at the issue from the other side of the bank, it is exactly what I meant by no perspective is without merit, in one of the earlier posts.

Just one small clarification though, at the risk of sounding factitious, let me state that 'your solution does enthuse me' more than you could know. :D

It is not so often that PP and I resonate with the same frequency of ideas but this is indeed a rare moment for me :wink: :D

Shekhar:

It was in fact difficult to discuss this issue keeping an annoying "one-sided moderator" around here. So the best I could do was "e-SHOUT" to emphasise some comments without any personal attack. After all it is going to hurt only my "throat' (my key-board) not others' heart . 8)

You know, Shekhar, it is very interesting to see and learn about people's attitude when you stand in the other side in a "silly" argument. I mean most of us are going to go with the same opinion we had for sure, eventually. Thank you for giving me an opportunity to learn about people and, to reveal their "unseen" attitude, Shekhar.

Hey if at all u needed to visit the doctor to fix your "damaged ears", due to my "e-shoutings", let me know the amount you paid to fix it. I will write you a check for that amount as I am liable. :) Take it easy, my friend, Shekhar! :)

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Finally, PP, I must appreciate your open mind in this issue. After all u did not "hire" the "moderator" for your thread and so I know u r not the one to blame for that. !:lol2:

You did your part the best u could. Thank you, PP. :)

mellon,

I don't know what you are talking about. :o
I dont understand the language. Can you post in english? :roll:

On second thought.... Dont. I am busy as such.

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Originally Posted by Shekhar

On second thought.... Dont. I am busy as such.

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Good for you,Shekhar,and even for us! :wink:

Today's 'Dhina Thanthi' had an article on 'Surrogate mothers' in 'Thinamum oru thagaval' column. Here is the summary-

The ratio of childless couples to others in India is as high as 1:6.

The basic qualifications for a surrogate are- She should be married and should have atleast 1 or 2 children of her own by 'natural' delivery. Should be betwen 25-30 years of age and should be in good health.

For the lady to be a surrogate, she should consent wholly and should also have support from her husband and near-family.

The genuine couples and the surrogate are required to execute an agreement in front of the lawyer.

The identity of the 'real' couples is kept as a close-guarded secret to the surrogate and vice-versa.

Surrogates get a monthly payment of Rs 1500 and Rs 50k on delivery.

She is not allowed to even look at the face of the new-born. The new-born is immediately handed over to the 'real' parents.

Scorpio, that's exactly the gist of the Anantha Vikadan article which stirred me by its saddening implications to start this thread. Did Thanthi copy Vikadan's article? :wink:

PP Ma'm,

Possible. Dhina Thanthi is not a very honest newspaper and many of its articles ( especially ones in its supplements) are all lifted without due credits. Somehow, the pre-condition that the surrogate should be married and should have atleast a child of herself offered me some solace that poor people will not 'use' their unmarried daughters into this 'profession'. With a child already hers, the surrogate may also not miss the new born 'entirely' as opposed to first time mothers who are foced to 'let out' their wombs.

Scorpio, the AV article carried interviews with some surrogate mothers. One was a widow who has been brought away to the city unknown to the relatives to finish this clandestine assignment according to her confession. All the women accepted this for money(Rs.50,000!).