Hi goodsense, i undertand what you are telling. Its strange how some indian men can bend to a foreigner but not to their own women.
One of the (indian) females in our neighbourhood is a gold medalist in her highschools and is a doctor. Her husband doesn't want her to work and he treats her very badly. Some of the young indian couples face problems in the initial years of their marriage, probably because they want the best of both cultures in their partners. They hardly realize their partners have the same expectations! As i said before even some indian women do the same. In my opinion, many indians living abroad lose the basic indian values of tolerance and understanding. Time really is a good teacher.