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Further, we just had a baby girl 3 months back, I was also
looking for some good parenting sites, there are many
very easy to find thru search engines, I thought,
asking you guys, I can get to know a few of the best ones.
Shall appreciate your information. Thanks.
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Here is an editorial from last week's "The Times of India":
"Fertility Rites
Why India is not worried about rising infertility worldwide
Making babies naturally has never been more difficult. Why? Because we're sitting on an 'infertility time bomb', warn experts who met recently in Copenhagen at a European Ssssociety of Human Reproduction and Embryology (ESHRE) conference. One in six couples worldwide has some kind of infertility problem and the ratio could soon rise to one in three. The problem afflicts male andd female partners in equal measure. This is the obverse of the Malthusian doomsday scenario. The 18th century economist projected that a geometric growth in human population would eventually outstrip agricultural and economic production. However, advanced tecchnologgy and improved healthcare proved him wrong. The ESHRE disclosures, however, are alarming for ccompletely different reasons. Going by recent trends, especially in Western Europe and Sscandinavia, it seems that greater economic independence and higher standards of livvving are not conducive for procreation. Infertility is set to double in Europe in the next 10 years, warns Bill Ledger from Sheffield zuniversity and male infertility worldwide could rise faster because both quality and quantity of sperm are on the decline.
Decclining fertility rates - in rich and poor countries- are being attributed to any of the following reasons. Stress, smoking, obesity, malnutrition, women postponing marriage and motherhood because of inflexible working hours and career aspirations, sexually transmitted infections like chlamydia, drug or alcohol dependency, psychological factors and exposure to radiation and chemicals like pesticides. That's a huge basket of reasons and so affects a large swathe of the world's population, impacting every ecconomic group. Aaageing population and sharply declining birth rates are worrying Europe and the US. National health schemes of some countries are including the right to assisted reproduction. Denmark and Iceland provide generous paternity schemes that include paid long leave and other incentives. India, with a one billion plus population however, is not sweating- yet. With an estimated 35% of its total population under 15 years of age, Indian youth is set to dominate the world. Interestingly, China will soon experience the effects of the one-cchild norm that restricted family numbers and skewed gender ratio for more than two decades. All's well that ends well. By default we will soon find ourselves reaping the benefit of multiplying like rabbits."
I just watched the SunTv programme, Achamillai-achamillai, where we had this lady called Karpagham who had handed over her 16 day old baby to another lady, called Marimah.
Did anyone out there watch this particular programme????? It raised quite a lot of questions for me on whole families appearing on this programme, despite the risk of legal actions. What are some of your comments, please????
PP - I hope you don't mind me writing my query on this issue, please! :D
The people in charge of the mega serials & all soaps expect their viewers to put aside their reasoning faculty. :evil: Only sobs & tears, without rhyme or reason! :evil: Quite a lot can see through the producers' treacherous intentions of working on the waterworks of weaklings without any proper, decent self-respect! :twisted: How do so many millions stay hooked to all the idiocies is something I still can't comprehend! :twisted:
This was a talk show hosted by actress Lakshmi who has your everyday Muthu, Samy or in this case Karpagham as her guests to wash their dirty linen in public.
This particular case was fascinating in the sense that it takes a dig at covert sales of babies by the birth mother to the adoptive mother. The only problem that went awry was when the father of the baby came to know and demanded for his return!! And mind you, after 3 years too!!
A dispute of this sort shown on national tv, leaves the parents involved wide open for prosecution, doesn't it????? Also, to me, it raised the lack of awareness of contraception amongst Indian slum-dwellers, which is where these women were from.
I find this thread really nice to share one’s thoughts… My close friend (though she could have had her own baby ) had adopted a girl from Orphanage and she is 7 years old… Doing extremely well.. The kid has become part and parcel of the family and dear dear to all…. Ofcourse , the kid does not know the truth.. Now my friend is really worried as to WHETHER SHE NEEDS TO REVEAL THE TRUTH SOMETIME IN LIFE ?? If YES, BY WHEN AND AT WHAT AGE ??
This issue has been worrying my friend of late….
Can someone come up with a wiser suggestion on how to deal with such a situation…..as it is a very sensitive issue….
She is worried on the consequences… how the kid will react once she comes to know the truth…
One thing is for sure... Its not going to be an easy task to reveal ....
Probably those Dfers who had already adopted earlier… can bring in their best suggestion…
Looking forward…
In all discretion the parents may themselves forget the child is an adopted one. A little amount of such self-deceit shall do a lot of good. There is no telling what the temperament of the child is, how sensitive/possessive he/she is. Why take the risk & cause trauma & pangs all round? The damages could be irreparable. Even if the child finds out the truth at any stage from an outsider the parents will be right to lie about it & maintain him/her to be their natural child. What has the great sage Thiruvalluvar said about 'truth'?: "vaaymai enappaduvathu yaathenin yaathonRum theethilaathathu solal".
Someone who has the big heart to adopt a child should be given the best moral support & appreciation.
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