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Shekhar...When u knew to criticise it, u should have known to explain it too....iam sure u didnt understand what I said...
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Of course we do know our limits and we need not prove it with anyone..i onlt meant that the Daughter in Law (I donno what on earth u understood by DIL) deserves next to the MIL..
I agree with this for sure...how come we follow such strict rules at home but not outside it? if you see the males who whistles for such scenes would normally belong to 3rd class C Grade audience type...but they always manage to quiten the decent middle-class people...is that the middle-class weakness?Quote:
Originally Posted by lordstanher
Mira wrote
No that's the trait of the species!, They are unheard(except in letters to the editor section of the hindu ;-)), unseen(invisible). They are consumers of the society, silently consuming everything good or bad.Quote:
is that the middle-class weakness?
Coming back to violence against women, DIL - MIL fight is an internal phenomenon, it is one woman against another and IMO, it is a level playing field. But violence against women perpetrated by the brutal sex (I wouldn't call men who beat up women as the stronger sex) is condemnable and sadly it has silent consent from the society. Wife beaters are rarely arrested and in most of the cases, the affected person is advised not to complain for the sake of success of the institution and security of any kids involved. The law must be changed and victims of abuse by spouses must be guaranteed full protection by police and support by the government. And all wife beaters must be banned from entering into a legal wedlock again, thereby preventing such silent crimes from being perpetrated.
I agree with it..thats the trait...Middle-class, highest consumer section but silent on all important issues..
sadly the ones who shape India's future are worthless actors(calling themselves superstar, ultimate star, illay thalapathi when they are not even ACTORS!!!!!!!), rowdies, third-class C Grade Cinema Audience and illiterate politicians like Laloo (loose lollu)...
And still we have not figured out to a way change it!!!!!!!!! No wonder so many hate to llive in India..I guess thats the tactics used by these actors and politicians who depend largely on illiterate audience...
Very sad and depressing depsite of me tryin to come over it!!!!
Thanks,
Charu.
*Sorry I'm not able to revert too promptly/often in these threads....neways....
Tat exactly is wat even I'd said earlier in this thread! But tat exactly is wat is not happening in the present society, is it? :)Quote:
Originally Posted by jaiganes
And tat's y I'd expressed my concern abt the increasing number of women in our cities who r giving up most of the valuable aspects of our culture/values in the name of 'independence' or 'liberation', and u'll know wat I was talking abt if u know abt wat college girls- and even housewives- in most of the cities r getting into nowadays, right from smoking/drinking to pornography/illicit sex. :cry:
And u mite be rite in dismissing this, saying tat compared to the men aping western culture, the number of such women is currently very less, but we may not know abt wat mite happen further on....?
I know I mite offend many here and sound very biased but I personally believe tat the previous generations of women in our country were definitely better than the present (and maybe future) ones, for our culture is believed to've been existant for all these decades mainly bcos of the former, esp. the middle class women. And of course its not as if women of those times never worked in jobs or ventured out of the houses at all just bcos of their traditional outlook.....IMO, it was those women tat cud truly be regarded as the ideal women of not just their time but ne time! And its a pity tat most of the men of their time never realised the value of such women & seldom gave them the respect tat they were truly worthy of!
I'm not sure if men r going to change overall for the better, but I suspect tat the women r sadly never going to be the same again, barring a small fraction of them, in cities or even otherwise!
The thot tat we've lost such a precious wealth in our society really makes me depressed sumtimes..... :cry:
When MIL and DIL fight who is getting harassed.
I think it is the poor husband. This is violence against men. :roll:
Women are harassed all over the world. They are harassed in all forms starting from sex to kitchen work. ( there are exceptions)
Infact few individuals dare to kill women after sex. I am aware of one seriel killer who killed about 300 women after sex.
Horrible world this is!!!
It is also devastating to know the statistics that more women suffer from clinical depression than men. Why is all this emotional tortures reserved only for women???? Do we want our beloved mom or wife to suffer from depression?? I just had depression for just two days and felt how cruel it is to suffer from depression. The most terrible things in this world are the homicides and cold blooded cruelties. (I am not scared when i see the dead bodies of poor victims, but surely scared when seeing the criminals like seriel killers who commit heinous unbelievable crimes)
men and women are human beings. dats it. no one is superior or inferior.
Violence against women need not be physical all times. I had few experiences in my workplaces which were really disturbing. Will share one of them now.
There used to be a person in my ex-workplace. He was a senior both in position and experience. He used to make unnecessary comments about the sari, chappals, jasmine on the hair etc etc. He used to say how fat his wife had become of late and how people like me manage both home and career skilfully :cry: and all nonsense stuff. Wouldn't spare us even in the cafeteria asking the females to eat well and take care of our health ( as though it matters to him :shock: ). He would carefully mouth words which will convey his intentions but are not obscene or sensual. No need to say about his penetrating stares which made working- along, hell, literally.
He was so close to the highest boss and I was the only female among Managers in the organization and I had to interact with this person for official matters. Rules on workplace harassment were not laid emphatically as they are now. There used to be no other way but to endure this guy and avoid him whenever possible.
Lucky enough, I got offer from another place and moved on. But, can't help but feel sorry for other females working with that pervert! Yuck!
In police department sexual harassments are more. I know one women who is wife of a gazetted government officer and joined constable job. She faced harssments from many police men including SI in her station.
I think even devils do not behave so horribily.Quote:
Originally Posted by son