I am sorry to hear that scorpio! :( :(
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I am sorry to hear that scorpio! :( :(
In India Bihar tops in violence against women. There harassments and killings for dowry are very common.
Well, here is one of the incidents which I can never put off from my mind.
I was around 15, my nails had always been blue. So mom and dad were worried, if it has anythign to do with HEART PROBLEM. Bindas I was, not worrying about the consequences or the seroiusness of it. My parents chose not to tell about it too.
We had this famous heart surgeon/consultant near our house. He was a man of around 30 - 35. He had his own clinic near our place.
My mom did not say, whats gonna happen (probably knew not or was clueless herself) and I happily went inside to be checked by the doc.
Doc asked my mom to be out. Mom was initially uncomfy, later had to obey. Doc initially HAD NO NUSRSES OR ANYONE TO HELP HIM. He wanted to take ECG for me. (whatever it is, i am not sure about the medical terms, it was an instrument, to be kept near the chest area.)
I was asked to remove clothes, and doc without ANY NURSE did every check by himself.
It was not violence. PROBABLY he DID HIS DUTY. But for a 14 year old, with no one in the room, NOT EVEN A NURSE, being checked by a male doc, initimately.., IS PSYCHOLOGICALLY not so healthy.
I am nto sure, if many would agree with me, BUT I WAS EXTREMELY IRRITATED, SCARED, CAME HOME AND CRIED TO MOM. She was helpless who then said, "may be I should have stayed!"
I was certified normal. i AM 300 PERCENT SURE, doc was a normal guy, who DID NOT intend doin any harm to me.
But, a 14 year old WILL NOT UNDERSTAND THAT. I would have been happy if he had asked my mom to stay, or had a nurse to do it.
I may sound queer, conservative, but yes, I could not forgive that doctor for YEARS.
I feel I am elaborating too much on such topics, just wanted to mention here, that VIOLENCE can be even psycological in nature.
thx..again
I hope DOCTORS have these in mind. thanks.
From recent newpaper reports, the maximum number of professionals who abuse their clients seem to be teachers and doctors. These are two professions, we have accorded the maximum respect. I guess worms always find their way into apple.
Hey Shakti....that's not being overly conservative...that's common instinct kicking in...even if the doc was pure he should have a nurse by him.. and ecg on first visit...that's kinda drastic...i know one of my friends kept avoiding going to the doctor...the doc was a family friend but it got to the point she was feeling uncomfortable with a male doc finally i introduced her to my fam. doc (femme) and luckily too cause she had been suffering from a thyroid problem that she did not know of until she went..as for blue nails....i still get them...i always have cold,moist hands and feet....doctor says it's cause im anaemic(iron deficiency)
It is not at all related to profession. It depends only upon mentality. One of my relatives is also harassing his wife daily. He is also doctor. There is no rule that doctors and teachers do not have bad character.Quote:
Originally Posted by jaiganes
Well even if this thread is for violence against women, i thought of writing what i know regarding low BP and anemia.Quote:
Originally Posted by Querida
Well if you are suffering from low blood pressure, eat lots of vegetables/fruits. A multivitamin supplement will help. Taking large doses of iron tablets is not a better idea, coz your body needs very little amount of iron per day, but the iron consumption should be consistent even if its very less.
Proper food habits can eliminate such problems. If u have moist hands/cold hands i think uhave to increase the consumption of minerals (esp vegetables and eggs). Fish is a must. Be careful with salt consumption
Always learn to keep track of your body and dont forget to do a google search to know more about the kind of problems you have and the solution for them. All these advice is for every one both young and old
In India women mainly face harassments by husbands or mother-in-law\father-in-law in home. Sexual harassments in office are less. Women need not fear to domestic harassments or harassments in office. Women can darely file complaint in police station against harassments. But women who do that are less.
Shakti,
really sorry to hear abt ur incident w/ the doc....I know how u felt, I can feel my hands trembling after reading it, believe me......inspite of being a guy! Whew! :shock:
I've had similar apprehensions abt male docs. examining women and had decided long b4 tat when I'd be married, I wud never take my wife- or daughter if I had one- to a male doc! I mean, u can't really tell their character in these matters!
And no I don't think u were being conservative or nething....I agree tat a male doc really shud've had a nurse around....I know tat in the US or even Sing., which r not conservative comp'd to India, its common for male doctors to examine female patients- even as gynaecologists! but I've heard tat there usually is a nurse in their presence when examining the patients....
Nevertheless, I'm quite surprised tat u had to go to a male doctor, even if u were young.....um, surely there were female doctors around in ur city in those days as well...?
Lol! Yevaru chepparamma? (Who sez so my dear?) :PQuote:
Originally Posted by mandangi
In fact fyi, harassment of women in offices tat r male dominated, or hav to work w/ male colleagues, is really the max. in sum cities.....sadly, even if women r in positions like IAS officers, they are harassed by Senior IAS officers!
There was even an article in 'Deccan Chronicle' (hyd. newspaper) last Dec. abt the increasing harassment of junior women IAS by senior male ones in Guwahati (Assam).....said tat sum of the women r forced to take transfer to other places while sum others r even forced to submit themselves to this treatment! Gawd! Tat is so pathetic! :x
And as 4 complaining to police against this, it said tat many of them did tat of course.....but not surprisingly, most of the IAS men hav connections w/ politicians and/or wield sum influence, so.......well u can guess the rest! :(
Damn! this really makes me wonder if India really is a 'democracy'?? :evil: