yeah, and that's really sad!Quote:
Originally Posted by Shakthiprabha
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yeah, and that's really sad!Quote:
Originally Posted by Shakthiprabha
Arranged marriages are common in our culture. Lets do a small modificaiton to it. How about getting know your future wife for one or two months and see if your values match hers.Quote:
Originally Posted by Shakthiprabha
Example, i want a wife who never ever talks lies, who does not argue, who does not trick you or trap you by her language, who is not stingy, who has a sense of dressing, who is sweet, who is charming, etc etc.
Obviously, there are some trade offs and give and takes but the basic values definitely has to match to have a happy life.
When i say dating it does not have to involve sex or anything. just getting to know each other, thats it.
Aiyo....intha topicai viduvae matteingela?...First of all let me give me my opinion of marriage.
Marriage: Marriage in itself is the unification of two hearts till the coming of death, in other words it is like the "official" announcement of loving each other till death. A person can only be married to another person if he/she is willing to be with their partner for life and they are confident of understanding each others needs and emotions. In a way this is also similar to love as love does not happen if you do not understand each others needs and their characteristics (Love has nothing to do with physical sexuality like sex and kissing and touching and beauty which is more towards lust and the working of our stimulating hormones). Even in the so called "arranged" marriage, he/she still has to like the person before deciding to marry and even forced marriages end in scrutiny as there is no chemistry with both the husband and wife.
Conclusion: In other words the word marriage is strongly associated with love and it plays a very prominent role in marriage.
even if it is "arranged" both husband and wife will still have to love each other in order to lead a married life.
In other words, Successful Married Life = Evidence of Love which also goes to show Marriage is highest status given to lovers (something like a promotion).
i dont even now why, but i call everyone one as anna! i feel some sort of safeness calling them anna and beside its sounds better to call anna, i feel so. apropos friendship, i dont know. every guy i met, i start fighting with them or they start annoying me, so i never had any friend who was a male. here norway male friends.............mhm nothing to mention. most of my male friends, i feel them as my thambi not even anna, b'coz they talk so stupidly and they r so naive. :roll:Quote:
Originally Posted by Shakthiprabha
Sometimes certain men feel that they are being called anna to show that the girls do not prefer them, while some others just go with it fine.
As for friendship....athu indian men/boys and women/girls matter ellei...intha ulugathil nadanthukittu irukkum oru unmai. Its not that people do not understand friendship, they actually do know the meaning of friendship. However the problem is they are unsure of their own relationships which at times leads to love. Its not rare but neither is it common to have a boy or girl understanding that they are just friends and thats it.
If u meant this gf/bf thing well that has nothing to do with friendship. Some girls/boys when they grow up getting distracted by seeing movies depicting love,seeing kathal jodis and they too wish to try out how a relationship would be so they go about asking a boy/girl whom they like. Because this people are just "trying" it out they do not actually know each other at the start so they just go with the girlfriend boyfriend concept.
But one thing, Love has nothing to do with the gf/bf thingy or friendship. Its a totally different topic altogether. Love has been easily misread that it is related to sex just like how it is related to this gf/bf thingy.
(Note: Kathal vanthaal athu unarchigal mulamaga varum...alagu ellei curiosity mulam ellei)
i really wonder by ur sentence! right now in this world we live, i dont see any ""true" love?! i dont know i might be wrong! :roll:Quote:
Originally Posted by Hulkster
this is the concept i don't like. i hope indians can learn the concept of friendship b/w the opposite sexes! right now, indian girls call everyone anna, whether they like them or not! y can't u be friends if u like them and not if u don't. and does it mean that if u call a guy anna, you will not fall in love with that person? you might, cos u are not thinking of that person in a brotherly way even though u're calling him anna. and if u believe in love, then do u want to miss your love cos u call him anna?Quote:
Originally Posted by crazy
i know a very good example of true love, my parents! i hope u meet more pple like them!Quote:
Originally Posted by crazy
If I might ask, is theirs an arranged or 'love' marriage? :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Fire111999
fie u r right but iam taliking about love these days, not the past generation!Quote:
Originally Posted by Fire111999