Does Love Exist?

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

on Fri Oct 29, 2010 7:45 am

Final part will be completed over the weekend

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Originally Posted by Dhakshan

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

on Fri Oct 29, 2010 7:45 am

Final part will be completed over the weekend

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sorry to disappoint, came back from Bangalore and was tied up with oficial work over the weekend. Hence could nt complete. Will surely complete by this weekend!
Diwali Bonus :lol:

Sathya!!!!! Nalla ezhuthuringa.. :thumbsup:

TM Anna..

Aduthavanga kathai ketkarathukku onnum kuraichal illai.. Naan hub ku vantha naal la irunthu, en soga kathaiya solrean nu sollitu irukkinga, innum sollala :hammer:

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Originally Posted by Jyothsna

Sathya!!!!! Nalla ezhuthuringa.. :thumbsup:

TM Anna..

Aduthavanga kathai ketkarathukku onnum kuraichal illai.. Naan hub ku vantha naal la irunthu, en soga kathaiya solrean nu sollitu irukkinga, innum sollala :hammer:

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Jyo... This story telling started with mine only :P

Check few pages back :wink:

It starts here :noteeth:

http://forumhub.mayyam.com/hub/viewt...=asc&start=315

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Originally Posted by Jyothsna

Sathya!!!!! Nalla ezhuthuringa.. :thumbsup:

TM Anna..

Aduthavanga kathai ketkarathukku onnum kuraichal illai.. Naan hub ku vantha naal la irunthu, en soga kathaiya solrean nu sollitu irukkinga, innum sollala :hammer:

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Jyo... This story telling started with mine only :P

Check few pages back :wink:

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oh.. ok..ok.. :ashamed:

part III enge?

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Originally Posted by crazy

part III enge?

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Proof reading kku wife kitta koduthirukkaar.. vanthidum seekiram

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Originally Posted by Thirumaran

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Originally Posted by crazy

part III enge?

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Proof reading kku wife kitta koduthirukkaar.. vanthidum seekiram

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:lol:

TM anna :notworthy: Intha thiruvaaliyathanukku ulla ippadi oru kathaiya.. :(

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Originally Posted by Jyothsna

Sathya!!!!! Nalla ezhuthuringa.. :thumbsup:

TM Anna..

Aduthavanga kathai ketkarathukku onnum kuraichal illai.. Naan hub ku vantha naal la irunthu, en soga kathaiya solrean nu sollitu irukkinga, innum sollala :hammer:

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:ty: Jyo!

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Originally Posted by crazy

part III enge?

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too much official work, working even on weekends. Will try and complete part 3 during Diwali weekend

Thiru anna.. Semma-a ezhudhirikinga :2thumbsup:
Climax le nejamaave :cry2: (lite-a).. Neenga 23 yrs nu sollirundhinga, unmaiyilaeyae, u must hav been so much matured to take these kinds of decisions :clap: :notworthy:

And unga kadhai-a padika aarambikum bodhu TV le GM, Sendhil, VV and pothi pothi vazhatha Manimegalai kamedy oaditurundhadhu.. Neenga Ms. R and 1st love sollumbodhu laam Manimegalai face thaan mind le cross aachu :lol:

Love does exist for example don't you love your family and friends?

Nandri hain Jyo and dhaks. :P

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Climax le nejamaave :cry2: (lite-a)..

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ithukaevaa. Ennoada Full life a mega serial a edukka poaraen.. vaazhkai fullaa azhalaam.. :cry:

adada ithu ennam kantinuee panutha :lol2:

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thiruvaaliyathanukku

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appadinnaa :roll:

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Nandri hain Jyo and dhaks. :P

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Climax le nejamaave :cry2: (lite-a)..

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ithukaevaa. Ennoada Full life a mega serial a edukka poaraen.. vaazhkai fullaa azhalaam.. :cry:

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:lol: eppo Kanya anni ungala kalyanam pandra scene lathane..

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thiruvaaliyathanukku

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appadinnaa :roll:

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Sindu mudiyara aasaminga peru :)

Naan kuda neenga kanya anni ya love panna kathaithan ezhuthirukkinga nu paarthen :?

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Naan kuda neenga kanya anni ya love panna kathaithan ezhuthirukkinga nu paarthen :?

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chae chae.. Me good boy. :swinghead:

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Naan kuda neenga kanya anni ya love panna kathaithan ezhuthirukkinga nu paarthen :?

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chae chae.. Me good boy. :swinghead:

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Note : All Incidents are 100% Facts, not even an iota of imagination involved.

Part – 1: Chemical Reaction

Where do I start? I have starting trouble always :noteeth: Difficult to overcome this bad habit. Another bad habit is the inability to stop, once started :lol:

First year at college, for a studious person, is always exciting. That too the department of choice. But, first year in Engineering is not all about departments and specialization. It’s about some common curriculum devised when Egyptians were building their pyramids. I was wondering, “Come On, you cannot do this to me. I am the next Bill Gates and you are forcing me to study Physics and Chemistry and making me draw figures imagining different angles (I mean 3-D figures of non-living beings :sigh2: )”.

But, fortunately I had a couple of my school-mates and made a great friend (My best friend till date) which helped me navigate through the ordeal.

She entered. Like the song from angaadi theru, she is not fair, not so very beautiful, not chased by many guys. But, I liked her. She had chosen a different department, but was in my section during the first year. It was not love at first sight (I don’t believe in that).

I did not pay much attention to her at the beginning, never dreamt of proposing to her. But, it happened. It all started in the Chemistry Lab, the lecturer who disliked me and whom I disliked even more.

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Part – 2: Experiment, Observation, Inference
We were partners, in lab. Not sure why she was made my partner as it is not in alphabetical order. I was not excited to partner a girl. I expected my close friend to partner me. Lecturer :hammer:
I was fully concentrating on experiments in lab and to make matter worse, she was made my partner in Physics Lab as well. That started the turn-around, the change of view I had on her due to close observation. For the first time in life, I am observing a girl that closer due to proximity in the lab while setting up lenses, measurements etc. It was very nice. I wanted to keep observing her eyes, lips, forehead, ear, ear rings! It was pure pristine love and I am 100% sure that there is no lust involved. I just wanted to keep staring at her, not even had the intention of holding her hands. PaarthukittE irukkaNum pola irukkum

She was from south TN and was shy in the beginning. But, she became close to me started talking well. She was not moving freely with other guys in the class and I used to accompany her for purchasing bus tickets, stationery, books.

This is where I started slipping in studies, but not alarmingly. The methodical planner in me who used to set goals and achieve them nonchalantly, started to die. I, in fact, should thank her for teaching me the most valuable lesson I learnt in life. Never allow your personal life affect your professional and vice-versa. When I think about it now, I feel that the slip at that stage was better in a way, as the results gave me a wake-up call very early in life.

Slowly but surely, I started falling for her. You always fall in Love, never rise :) ! I don’t know how I would approach / propose. At this stage, I did my second mistake (which will be covered in 3rd and Final Part).

Continuing my interaction with her – Our relationship grew thick and I was always dreaming about her. Self :hammer: now for that! I heard through some of the other girls in the class that she too was talking about me to her friends in hostel. My confidence grew stronger and at the age of 19-20, I was thinking about marriage :lol:

Now, the real big test approached – The First Year Exams. I was planning to propose by the end of last exam, so as not to disturb her during the exams.

Whether I proposed? What was her reply? What was my 2nd Mistake?

Wait for Part – 3 :)

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Part - 3: Exams and Results
In the mean while, I shifted from my Hostel to a mansion with a friend. There were other class mates and seniors. It was a nice time. I shared my story with one of my classmates who was staying in a room next to mine.

He gave some ideas, suggestions etc. Since, I was too naive at that stage and believed everyone who spoke nicely, I fell for it. He asked me to wait as it was just the first year. I waited, without knowing his back-stabbing plans. Even my seniors were encouraging my story and gave some useful tips.

My concentration on studies went down and my homework was - Write a book on "Proposal for Dummies" :lol:

My other room mate without anybody's knowledge (atleast to my knowledge) was bracketing her :( To Me Now - Idhu kooda theriyaama nee enna may**ukku love paNNa? self :hammer: again!
Exams were going on and my performances were going south by south east!

I know I would pass, but marks would not as per the targets set! But, when I think about it now, I thank both my friend who back-stabbed me and that girl, as it sowed the first seed of professionalism in me. I learnt a lot of valuable lessons at a very early stage in life when the damages / consequences are minimal.

On the final day of he exam, before the exam, I said to her that I wanted to meet her after the exam, as She would be in another department from 2nd year. I was like Sachin (sleepless for days together before the Pak Match in 2003 WK). I dunno how I mustered that courage to tell this and still worse, what should I say to her - Should I say "I love you" or "I want to marry you" or try telepathy / feelings transfer.......

After the exam, she came over waiting for me at the entrance of the lab. It was not too dramatic and she was calm and composed. My heart-beat rate was 2 Zetta Hertz! I could hear my own heart beat! Before I could open my mouth, she said "I have heard your feelings for me. But, I just want to be friend with you" and left even without waiting to hear me. Matter over!

poyE pOchu, pOyindhi, it's gone! I stood there for 10-15 mins with a blank mind. Then came back to my room. The funny thing was, I did not even tried to meet her again and persuade her. I have this habit of not chasing anybody at the instance of first rejection (Except one whom I chased for more than 4 years).

Later I came to know of my friend's great service and that he was with her then. I did not have any kind of disappointment / anger / guilt. I did not meet or spoke with them ever after.

Lessons I learnt:1) If you love a girl, go and propose on your own. If you don't have the guts to say, you don't deserve to be in love.

2) keep it discreet and secret. The more the people know, the more the chances of breaking-up.

3) Don't bother if your love is not reciprocated. Afterall all women are the same and nobody is special. So, some day or the other you will end up with one.

4) Always be prepared for break-up (failure) as it is part and parcel of life and any relationship for that matter.

5) Your life is more important than anything and anybody in this world.

6) Sometimes the lessons learnt in failure of something are far more valuable than getting success.

Satya bro :clap: Very well written.. Friends pathi sollum bodhe, lite-a climax-a predict pannitaen.. Hmm you learnt many from ur experience, enaku indha maadhiri ellaam onnume illiyae.. Appo na unga kittarundhu thaan kathukanum...

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It was not love at first sight (I don’t believe in that).

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Nalla vaela.. Illai na, 7-u 70 kooda aagirukum :lol: j/k...

:ty: Dhaks!
Yeah, u need not make all the mistakes by urself and learn. U can learn from others's too. That's what wise people do.

Plum, aapkA feedback? U were the main reason for me posting this here. So, it's appraisal time :D

sathya, nInga dhAn kalvettula ezhudhi vechuttIngaLE.
ingE irukkum varungAla sandhadhiyinarE, pArthu padichu kathukittu vaazhkaiyila vaLam perunga. idhellAm valuable tips - ivLO easyA ungaLukku kedaikkudhu!

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4) Always be prepared for break-up (failure) as it is part and parcel of life and any relationship for that matter.

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Nalla thaththuvam.. and I agree

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5) Your life is more important than anything and anybody in this world.

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Idhu matter ! I strongly endorse this.

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6) Sometimes the lessons learnt in failure of something are far more valuable than getting success.

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Plain truth ! but not sometimes .. most of the times !

Good story and valuable lessons learnt. Sathya :thumbsup:

:ty: Roshan

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Part - 3: Exams and Results
In the mean while, I shifted from my Hostel to a mansion with a friend. There were other class mates and seniors. It was a nice time. I shared my story with one of my classmates who was staying in a room next to mine.

He gave some ideas, suggestions etc. Since, I was too naive at that stage and believed everyone who spoke nicely, I fell for it. He asked me to wait as it was just the first year. I waited, without knowing his back-stabbing plans. Even my seniors were encouraging my story and gave some useful tips.

My concentration on studies went down and my homework was - Write a book on "Proposal for Dummies" :lol:

My other room mate without anybody's knowledge (atleast to my knowledge) was bracketing her :( To Me Now - Idhu kooda theriyaama nee enna may**ukku love paNNa? self :hammer: again!
Exams were going on and my performances were going south by south east!

I know I would pass, but marks would not as per the targets set! But, when I think about it now, I thank both my friend who back-stabbed me and that girl, as it sowed the first seed of professionalism in me. I learnt a lot of valuable lessons at a very early stage in life when the damages / consequences are minimal.

On the final day of he exam, before the exam, I said to her that I wanted to meet her after the exam, as She would be in another department from 2nd year. I was like Sachin (sleepless for days together before the Pak Match in 2003 WK). I dunno how I mustered that courage to tell this and still worse, what should I say to her - Should I say "I love you" or "I want to marry you" or try telepathy / feelings transfer.......

After the exam, she came over waiting for me at the entrance of the lab. It was not too dramatic and she was calm and composed. My heart-beat rate was 2 Zetta Hertz! I could hear my own heart beat! Before I could open my mouth, she said "I have heard your feelings for me. But, I just want to be friend with you" and left even without waiting to hear me. Matter over!

poyE pOchu, pOyindhi, it's gone! I stood there for 10-15 mins with a blank mind. Then came back to my room. The funny thing was, I did not even tried to meet her again and persuade her. I have this habit of not chasing anybody at the instance of first rejection (Except one whom I chased for more than 4 years).

Later I came to know of my friend's great service and that he was with her then. I did not have any kind of disappointment / anger / guilt. I did not meet or spoke with them ever after.

Lessons I learnt:1) If you love a girl, go and propose on your own. If you don't have the guts to say, you don't deserve to be in love.

2) keep it discreet and secret. The more the people know, the more the chances of breaking-up.

3) Don't bother if your love is not reciprocated. Afterall all women are the same and nobody is special. So, some day or the other you will end up with one.

4) Always be prepared for break-up (failure) as it is part and parcel of life and any relationship for that matter.

5) Your life is more important than anything and anybody in this world.

6) Sometimes the lessons learnt in failure of something are far more valuable than getting success.

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Would like to add one more point.

If you are in love, propose it immediately. More time you take, more time you give her to think. More she thinks, mostly result will not be in your favour.

Dont know what to comment Sathya :)

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Would like to add one more point.

If you are in love, propose it immediately. More time you take, more time you give her to think. More she thinks, mostly result will not be in your favour.

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Hmm.. Unga story kooda post pannunga :D.

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Afterall all women are the same and nobody is special.

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இது உங்க திருமதி'க்குத்தெரியுமா? :-)

உங்கள் "பட்டறிவு" பலருக்கும் பயன்படும் என்பது உண்மை :-)

Though I have minor differences (of opinion) with some, in general, excellent conclusions!

Thanks BM, Thanks app!
App, yeah, I used to tease her saying that what's so special and different between one woman and another, they all are same.

BM, point well put and accepted. Yes, very true. The more you prolong, chances of dumeel are more.

Maybe they think it's like shopping, it's wise for you to push them and make them buy a cloth rather than allowing them to go for their own choices. Most often they end up nowhere - I mean they confuse themselves too much as the choices are too many. I won't blame, it's the way they are (From whatever I have observed).

BM, enna thONudhO dhaaraaLamaa sollunga.

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If you are in love, propose it immediately. More time you take, more time you give her to think. More she thinks, mostly result will not be in your favour.

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If the only way to get a girl to marry you is to make sure she has the least possible time to think over the decision, I have a small doubt about the strength of this "love".

Satya you should continue writing :) you have an eye to be detailed, as well as succinct. Your analogies are unique yet create new meaning like battery/cricketer reference.

I know it's easier to ignore rather than attest, especially when in minority here
but no offense and of course no surprise but IMHO if we all thought point 3 was true (for both genders) then what a meaningless world to live in. :( If ending up with "one" :roll: was the whole issue it wouldn't affect this much...your other lessons ring true enough but if the bitterness of experiences taint every experience..has one really learned something or just learned to know its bitterness only?

querida - replace women with men. It's all the same. I mean, without looking at it cynically, the fact is rejection is not a big deal. Even if the way Sathya put it sounds cynical and bitter, I tend to believe that he probably doesnt intend it that way.

'Getting used to' exists.
Pardon the gray hue in place of the pink.