Does Love Exist?

Sathya :thumbsup: well written. Sujathavoda 'ஆக்ரமிப்பு' (ஓலை பட்டாசு) padichirukeengala? padikalana padichu paarunga, you will like it!

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Originally Posted by Plum

Querida - replace women with men. It's all the same. I mean, without looking at it cynically, the fact is rejection is not a big deal. Even if the way Sathya put it sounds cynical and bitter, I tend to believe that he probably doesnt intend it that way.

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Originally Posted by P_R

'Getting used to' exists.
Pardon the gray hue in place of the pink.

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Yes I know what you both say is true, and I do agree. It was the bitterness and the use of sameness for only women that compelled me to protest. Btw PR I prefer gray to pink any day.

I would say it's more about the number/degree of rosy qualities that interests/attracts you to that person, as well as the amount/degree of less-rosy qualities that you're willing to put up with/live with/do not know yet. It's the self-convincing of how compatible you are to this person that makes rejection a bitter pill to swallow.

Oh gray is a very safe color. To choose pink is to make oneself vulnerable (as the cliche goes (see that's the urge to grayness again that adds this qualifier)!)

Regarding the 'qualities' business I think we exaggerate our likes and dislikes in order to categorize ourselves: I like music is different from I am a music lover.

Where does taste move from being a (mere) function of one's personality to a dominant composition of one's identity!

Mostly, this is motivated by an attempt to 'fit in' rather than be out of step (the ego doth strictly command to recognize oneself as unique out of step personalities). But sometimes, even we find it 'convenient' to tag ourselves based on 'liking'. Not entirely 'true'.

It is like those moments when we see ourselves in the mirror and feel a strange otherness. Who the hell is this guy?! Jeez, is this how we are perceived, thought of, summarized, reacted to? None of which may conform to what one is, or atleast one one likes to think of oneself as.

That's why I surmise that knowability (and any liking that proceeds from that), is pretty much out of question.

But far from being bleak, I exude optimism:

Unless there are fundamental problems in attitude in one of them, any two people with a decent sense of equity and balance can pretty much get along well. And as they build memories together and share experiences together it will stick.

And what they celebrate after years of togetherness can possibly called love. Else Hallmark will go under. :-)

I wonder how much I could convince/be lauded if I could write like this.... :think: :D

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Originally Posted by Querida

Satya you should continue writing :) you have an eye to be detailed, as well as succinct. Your analogies are unique yet create new meaning like battery/cricketer reference.

I know it's easier to ignore rather than attest, especially when in minority here
but no offense and of course no surprise but IMHO if we all thought point 3 was true (for both genders) then what a meaningless world to live in. :( If ending up with "one" :roll: was the whole issue it wouldn't affect this much...your other lessons ring true enough but if the bitterness of experiences taint every experience..has one really learned something or just learned to know its bitterness only?

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Thanks for the feedback Que! Yes, point 3 is not aimed at women alone. My opinion is any relationship comes with an expiry date. So, there is no point in chasing something and somebody too much. "too much" varies from individual to individual.

I dnt have any bitterness whatsoever. I have not even cursed that guy and the gal. Yes, I implemented a few lessons I learnt from this! At the same time, did a couple of mistakes again in the next few episodes :lol:

Sathya bro, eagerly waiting for the next episodes :D.

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Originally Posted by 19thmay

Sathya :thumbsup: well written. Sujathavoda 'ஆக்ரமிப்பு' (ஓலை பட்டாசு) padichirukeengala? padikalana padichu paarunga, you will like it!

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nanRi hai Sridhar! Ling kedaikkumaa?

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Originally Posted by Dhakshan

Sathya bro, eagerly waiting for the next episodes :D.

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aduththu vEra yaaraachum (Plum?) Love Story postungappaa!

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

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Originally Posted by Dhakshan

Sathya bro, eagerly waiting for the next episodes :D.

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aduththu vEra yaaraachum (Plum?) Love Story postungappaa!

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Next Plum's love story post-unga :yes:

Wow that was intense. NOT what I expected.

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

3) Don't bother if your love is not reciprocated. Afterall all women are the same and nobody is special. So, some day or the other you will end up with one.

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Beg to differ. If no one's special we might as well end up with any person right? Why do we wait till we find that mr/miss perfect for us?

Satya,

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Intha lessons ellam appove kathukittingala illa konja varusham kazhichu yosichappo kathukittingala. :)

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Originally Posted by prashanth12

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Originally Posted by BM

If you are in love, propose it immediately. More time you take, more time you give her to think. More she thinks, mostly result will not be in your favour.

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If the only way to get a girl to marry you is to make sure she has the least possible time to think over the decision, I have a small doubt about the strength of this "love".

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Mouna Ragam Karthik, Alaipayuthe Maddy, Rhythm Ramesh Arvind, Mozhi Prakash Raj, Vaaranam Ayiram Surya, ivangala maathiri irukka solren. Idhayam Murali maathiri pannaatheenganu solren.

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

BM, enna thONudhO dhaaraaLamaa sollunga.

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Nice writing nu sollalaamnu nenaichen. Antha post ku nice writing nu solrathu correct nu thonala :) .

Sathya :cool2: Happy for ur first stepping stone of Success :P

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

Lessons I learnt:.

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Urupadiyaana vishayam pannum boathu ithellaam yosikaatheenga..

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

1) If you love a girl, go and propose on your own. If you don't have the guts to say, you don't deserve to be in love.

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:notthatway: If u love a girl, make sure that girl proposes u :yes: :roll:

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

2) keep it discreet and secret. The more the people know, the more the chances of breaking-up.

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yeah.. maththa ponnungalukku therinjaa..ivan thaan namakku munnaala vaera oru dubaakoora love pannaanaennu love panna maataanga...

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

eaking-up.

3) Don't bother if your love is not reciprocated. Afterall all women are the same and nobody is special. So, some day or the other you will end up with one.

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That is the spirit.. Seekira propose pannidanum.. So that based on the result we can immediately start looking for other.. Even proposing more than one girl in the same period is a good choice...

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

4) Always be prepared for break-up (failure) as it is part and parcel of life and any relationship for that matter.

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yeah.. before / after marriage break up with parents is needed too :roll:

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

5) Your life is more important than anything and anybody in this world.

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ippadi ellaam sonnaa eppadi ponnungalukku pudikumaa.. avanga life thaan namma life nnu poi solli aaganumae ?

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

6) Sometimes the lessons learnt in failure of something are far more valuable than getting success.

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Purithu..niraya adi pattirukaennu purithu..

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Originally Posted by Wibha

Wow that was intense. NOT what I expected.

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

3) Don't bother if your love is not reciprocated. Afterall all women are the same and nobody is special. So, some day or the other you will end up with one.

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Beg to differ. If no one's special we might as well end up with any person right? Why do we wait till we find that mr/miss perfect for us?

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U wait assuming that somebody who is special will come only to realise later that nobody is special :poke:
anubavasthan solREn kEttukko!

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Originally Posted by Jyothsna

Satya,

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Intha lessons ellam appove kathukittingala illa konja varusham kazhichu yosichappo kathukittingala. :)

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:ty: Jyo!

Few lessons I learnt immediately, few later after analysing what went wrong

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Originally Posted by Wibha

Wow that was intense. NOT what I expected.

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

3) Don't bother if your love is not reciprocated. Afterall all women are the same and nobody is special. So, some day or the other you will end up with one.

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Beg to differ. If no one's special we might as well end up with any person right? Why do we wait till we find that mr/miss perfect for us?

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Other stories will be far more intense. But, I will wait till somebody posts their story!

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Originally Posted by Querida

I wonder how much I could convince/be lauded if I could write like this.... :think: :D

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eppadi ezhuthuroamngrathu mukkiyam illa.. matter thaan mukkiyam..

Expecting soon ur write up (in this thread) :thumbsup:

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Originally Posted by BM

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

BM, enna thONudhO dhaaraaLamaa sollunga.

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Nice writing nu sollalaamnu nenaichen. Antha post ku nice writing nu solrathu correct nu thonala :) .

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Oh ok! naan idhukkellaam romba feel paNradhu illai :lol:

en kadan paNi seidhu kidappadhE maadhiri, oru kaalathula en kadan propose seidhu kidappadhE :rotfl:

aNNan Gounder maadhiri I will marry you, all I will marry you dhaan!

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Originally Posted by Thirumaran

Sathya :cool2: Happy for ur first stepping stone of Success :P

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

Lessons I learnt:.

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Urupadiyaana vishayam pannum boathu ithellaam yosikaatheenga..

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

1) If you love a girl, go and propose on your own. If you don't have the guts to say, you don't deserve to be in love.

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:notthatway: If u love a girl, make sure that girl proposes u :yes: :roll:

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

2) keep it discreet and secret. The more the people know, the more the chances of breaking-up.

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yeah.. maththa ponnungalukku therinjaa..ivan thaan namakku munnaala vaera oru dubaakoora love pannaanaennu love panna maataanga...

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

eaking-up.

3) Don't bother if your love is not reciprocated. Afterall all women are the same and nobody is special. So, some day or the other you will end up with one.

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That is the spirit.. Seekira propose pannidanum.. So that based on the result we can immediately start looking for other.. Even proposing more than one girl in the same period is a good choice...

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

4) Always be prepared for break-up (failure) as it is part and parcel of life and any relationship for that matter.

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yeah.. before / after marriage break up with parents is needed too :roll:

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

5) Your life is more important than anything and anybody in this world.

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ippadi ellaam sonnaa eppadi ponnungalukku pudikumaa.. avanga life thaan namma life nnu poi solli aaganumae ?

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

6) Sometimes the lessons learnt in failure of something are far more valuable than getting success.

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Purithu..niraya adi pattirukaennu purithu..

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adi ellaam oNNum illa! saNdaiyila kizhiyAdha sattai enga irukku? :D
BTW, love success aagaNumnu poi solli enakku pazhakkam illa! Success aagodhO failure aagudhO, result paththi kavalai padaama uNmaiya mattumdhaan solliyirukken, idhu varaikkum :mrgreen:

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

But, I will wait till somebody posts their story!

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right.. pasanga thaan ulari kottanumnu ethaachum irukkaa :roll: this time ladies :evil:

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

But, I will wait till somebody posts their story!

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right.. pasanga thaan ulari kottanumnu ethaachum irukkaa :roll: this time ladies :evil:

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:yes: +1979

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

BM, enna thONudhO dhaaraaLamaa sollunga.

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Nice writing nu sollalaamnu nenaichen. Antha post ku nice writing nu solrathu correct nu thonala :) .

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Oh ok! naan idhukkellaam romba feel paNradhu illai :lol:

en kadan paNi seidhu kidappadhE maadhiri, oru kaalathula en kadan propose seidhu kidappadhE :rotfl:

aNNan Gounder maadhiri I will marry you, all I will marry you dhaan!

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Tirisa kedaikalana Divya.

:notthatway: Shreya :noteeth:

:rotfl: Thiru anna, Anni indha pakkam varardhillai nu dhairiathil thaane :lol2:

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

U wait assuming that somebody who is special will come only to realise later that nobody is special :poke:
anubavasthan solREn kEttukko!

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Cha cha no one is special to me. I will be someone's someone special :poke:

Thiru girls have no stories. Its always the guys :cool:

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Originally Posted by Wibha

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

U wait assuming that somebody who is special will come only to realise later that nobody is special :poke:
anubavasthan solREn kEttukko!

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Cha cha no one is special to me. I will be someone's someone special :poke:

Thiru girls have no stories. Its always the guys :cool:

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1) nenapudhaan pozhappa kedukkum :noteeth:
2) because no love :lol:

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Originally Posted by Wibha

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

U wait assuming that somebody who is special will come only to realise later that nobody is special :poke:
anubavasthan solREn kEttukko!

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Cha cha no one is special to me. I will be someone's someone special :poke:

Thiru girls have no stories. Its always the guys :cool:

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Nee chinna ponnu, pasangala vida ponungakita neraya story irukkum.. Enna velila theriyathu avlothan. :)

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Originally Posted by Wibha

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

U wait assuming that somebody who is special will come only to realise later that nobody is special :poke:
anubavasthan solREn kEttukko!

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Cha cha no one is special to me. I will be someone's someone special :poke:

Thiru girls have no stories. Its always the guys :cool:

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Nee chinna ponnu, pasangala vida ponungakita neraya story irukkum.. Enna velila theriyathu avlothan. :)

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Its better to just say we have no stories :)

Its all the girl talk.. :D

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

U wait assuming that somebody who is special will come only to realise later that nobody is special :poke:
anubavasthan solREn kEttukko!

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Cha cha no one is special to me. I will be someone's someone special :poke:

Thiru girls have no stories. Its always the guys :cool:

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Nee chinna ponnu, pasangala vida ponungakita neraya story irukkum.. Enna velila theriyathu avlothan. :)

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EKSI! :vaayila adichukkarEn:

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Originally Posted by Wibha

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

U wait assuming that somebody who is special will come only to realise later that nobody is special :poke:
anubavasthan solREn kEttukko!

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Cha cha no one is special to me. I will be someone's someone special :poke:

Thiru girls have no stories. Its always the guys :cool:

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Nee chinna ponnu, pasangala vida ponungakita neraya story irukkum.. Enna velila theriyathu avlothan. :)

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Its better to just say we have no stories :)

Its all the girl talk.. :D

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:) pozhachikkuva..