Does Love Exist?

Today Love

Boys expects the security...

nejama - amma madhiri thannai pathukanam nu nenaikaranga..


ponnunga - ivanga love - nichayama security ai base pannalai.

Money la dhan iruku........

kadaiyil - dress vangara mahdiri

indha dress - ila - idhu nalla iruku - illa adhu inum nalla iruku.. madhiri

boys - neraiya kedaika kedaika, avangaloda

asai and expectation - change ayindae iruku..

so - nalla appa amma irundhu guide pannina -

ivanga - love or marriage la - settle avanga..

otherwise - no chance

neraiya asai

neraiya expectation - nu vandhu, kozhambi poi,

kurai padara oru jenmama - ponnunga agaranga..

idhan en feelings. sorry to say.........

:notworthy:

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Originally Posted by pavalamani pragasam

But there should be some fairness in the 'conditions' put forward by these modern girls! What is the percentage of 'stove accidents', divorces, adulteries and other abuses? What about the unwritten stories of mils suffering unspeakable abuses in the hands of dils? I know many cases where such things happen. You think girls are right to be careful, but you fail to realise it is not 'carefulness' but pure arrogant atrocity! :shock:

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I have never been a supporter of this 'joint-family-thingy' where mil & dil are forced to put up with each other, day after day. It's quite unnatural as there's nothing biologically binding between them (as in the case with blood relatives or between spouses).

It was the fault of the society (possibly forced by economic conditions) to make these two women live under the same roof, giving rise to troubles both ways :-)

It's better for the boy and girl to leave their parents alone and live happily separately, as one flesh, with lot of kAdhal / luv. Parents too can continue to care for other children or enjoy their own later-year kAdhal:-)

Also, parents should not think about 'investing in children to get some monetary support later on' anymore but do some financial planning to take enough care of their years of advanced age.

That way, the parents can happily enjoy visits of chilren, grand children etc which will be a time of joy and not of grief. Rest of the time, can indulge in some useful pursuit for the society - plant trees for e.g., rather than watching serials and complaining about dil to neighbors :-)

Obviously there is no western(US) influence in love!

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Originally Posted by tvsankar

Today Love

Boys expects the security...

nejama - amma madhiri thannai pathukanam nu nenaikaranga..


ponnunga - ivanga love - nichayama security ai base pannalai.

Money la dhan iruku........

kadaiyil - dress vangara mahdiri

indha dress - ila - idhu nalla iruku - illa adhu inum nalla iruku.. madhiri

boys - neraiya kedaika kedaika, avangaloda

asai and expectation - change ayindae iruku..

so - nalla appa amma irundhu guide pannina -

ivanga - love or marriage la - settle avanga..

otherwise - no chance

neraiya asai

neraiya expectation - nu vandhu, kozhambi poi,

kurai padara oru jenmama - ponnunga agaranga..

idhan en feelings. sorry to say.........

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Expectations are a 'big' blunder when it comes to relationship when expectations 'faces' the reality !

pp mam,
thanks for the responses.
how r u?

problem - solution nu dhan

love or marriage life

girl or boy

periyavanga - PARENTS

ivanga - first - porupai purinjindu

nalla valathanam... nalladhai solli tharanam.

Intha MIL and DIL dandanaka is like a 'Local' variable in the 'Subcontinent' . It is not recognised Globaly :huh:

Boy friend girl friend concept paththi naan pala samayam jolly aa solrathundu..

For Boys, having girl friend is showing that he too can get a girl friend. matter of proudness..

For girls, having a boy friend is a abt finding an idiot to spend for their daily expenses...

appadiyum konja paer irukkaanga :P

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Originally Posted by Thirumaran

Boy friend girl friend concept paththi naan pala samayam jolly aa solrathundu..

For Boys, having girl friend is showing that he too can get a girl friend. matter of proudness..

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This has started from the animal kingdom and spread on to the human race :lol2:

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Originally Posted by Thirumaran

For girls, having a boy friend is a abt finding an idiot to spend for their daily expenses...

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I have seen many like this, very sad indeed !

One thing I've observed in Kerala (where 'love' marriages possibly exceeded the number of 'arranged' marriages - much earlier than TN society) is about the least amount of stress between mil-dil.

First of all, for one group, it's boy moving into girl's home after marriage and putting up with his in-laws. ("பார்ய வீட்டில் பரம சுகம்" குழு, "நாஞ்சில் நாட்டு மருமக்கள் வழி மான்மியம்" என்று குமரிப்பகுதியிலும் இது கொஞ்சம் இருப்பதாகக்கேள்விப்பட்டிருக்கிறேன்).

Even among other groups, from what I've seen in tons of cases, the dil becomes d and mil becomes m, in the closest sense, reducing much of the possible tensions.