“Ouvanaku oruthi’ concept is one of the best concepts where a human can keep their mind away from wandering on basic animal instincts. But this should come from the whole hearted wishes of the individuals. Such concept provides a nice atmosphere for offspring and meets all their emotional needs. At the same time, we have to note that physical virginity is not a prime important issue in a good free society for the cordial relations among family, and people are more tolerant to accept the other person with their limitations and weaknesses (In Muoso society, even possiveness is missing and realtions are without any financial expectations). How we can say that we are superior than many innocent tribes?Quote:
Originally Posted by stranger
Unfortunately, among Tamils/Indians the term virginity is now related to only “physical status of body” rather than “personal integrity of mind”. That’s why Jayakanthan’s story (Agni Parikshai) about reinstalling virginity by just bathing a rape victim by her mother made a very big hue and cry in our society in 70s. But, on the other hand the movies, which show a rape victim marrying the rapist (Puthiya Paathai) is becoming very successful. When it comes to the widow remarriages Tamil movie directors makes the widowhood immediately after the marriage (for ex. Ritham, Vaideki Kathirunthal).
Don’t you feel some thing wrong with this?
Are you ready to accept that tamilians are barbarians ????
No, certainly not. I respect some of the great cultural values of Tamils. I am very much proud to say that Tamils had the concept of “piran mania vizaya peramani” and other high morals system even 2100 years back. It doesn’t mean that our social system today is much better than the western society, since they have different values to different acts. The western societies also respect those who maintained personal integrity and whole hearted love (ex. stories like Romeo/Juliet, Edward VII).
* I seriously think we should not PUT a SEAL on a person who slept with only one person all his/her life as a #1 fool or a barbarian in the world?
I agree to your point. But, in my opinion, such persons need not bother about what the remaining world calls them. I prefer to be called as “rough barbarian” on so many issues rather then getting accepted as “polished gentleman” on the issues which I believe as correct and as long as my personal action brings no harm to others. The physical virginity is purely a personal preference. I don’t think that any strong individuals will give up their personal integrity just because of other person’s comments.
* I have a bad feeling that that is what the modern world is trying to do by "using" excuses such as AIDS or HIV or whatsoever.
I respect your feelings. We have to accept that our value system is not the same as the Sankam or pre-sankam Tamils. Please read about the statistics of HIV infections, eve teasing and female fetus aborting. I never came across sex selection among any westerners (based on many years of interactions) but I had seen strong desire for male babies among Tamilians. Do we consider female children as burden or Goddess? Why such the feeling of burden or object to be protected comes in to our mind?
* Do you want such individuals look ridiculous in front of "Kushboo class" people????
I respect even “Kushboo class” (?!) people. It is their life. The people those who themselves believe that they are some higher class, need not bother or feel ridiculous in front of “Kushboo class” people.
I don't think it is FAIR.
Yah, if she had made some bad or blanket comments about Tamil society, then it is not fair. What she told is more or like her individual opinion about some statistics. If she had said that there is no virgin in Tamilnadu or Tamil ancestral culture was barbaric, I will be standing at your side. Recommending contraceptive for unhealthy relationships and protection measures against sexually transmitted disease cannot be considered as the recommendation to involve such acts.
