Violence against women

the answer to this thread is very simple. Thamizh or telugu or any place in this world is with the same issue. I will say in 40% households of men dominate women. the other 40% women dominate men. Only 20% of households, people understand each other and live peacefully.
For people who say women are physically, mentally abused in tamil nadu. Do u people say this because ur mom and dad were not living in peace? just fighting with each other??
I u all like the western concept of dating and marrying, even in their culture nice men lead peaceful life. But some guys who are always looking for women just divorce the wife in less than 1 year of marriage. Especially in USA these incidents are very very common. If india becomes like USA, then there will be about 80% of single women with kids as in the USA, then they start searching for a friend + husband to take care of their kid, to hang around etc.
do u people want such kind of things to happen in india????
Because of the culture in india, many guys dont have girl friends in india. If guys have to date and marry then no single guy will be leftout without a girl friend. Everyone will be looking for girls lol, like these americans.
one of my american friend was quite sad about his culture because gals do abortions even at the age of 12 or less than 15. So sad about that country.

Bdolf,
Who are you calling kids?

There is only two reasons a man would hit a woman.
1 She is sooooo annoying! that she's pushed him over his limits.
2 He is too scared to fight with guys, so he fulfilles that area of his life on a woman, and there is a word for those guys.
"Pathetic" :x

What fun!I wonder how will u all contribute to the cause :? .Davie,show me the 40 %houses where women dominate! :o And you Reena,Do you really understand the causes for domestic violence?How about an alcoholic and a drug addict?Don't you think poverty,inequality and the traditional belief that women should stay a step below men contributes to violence when egoistic men find their women not so willing?Don't you think polygamy and cheating are reasons? :? Hear this:A couple of yrs back an interesting case came before a Banagalore court:A man killed his wife with an axe when she kept asking him for money.It became clear in court that the man was a bonded labourer!He borrowed Rs.5000 for his daughter's marriage from the local landlord on the condition that he will work for him for six months.During this time he was allowed a daily ration of four raggi balls a day!The evidence in court proved that he brought most of the food home for his wife and most of the days he was starving and working on the field! :( Consider the psychological reasons in some cases when one of the partners is mentally ill!Do you still stick to your two reason theory? :wink: We move forward when we understand things a little better. :lol:

yea there are cheap morons who are behind money. many times money is one of the driving factors for all evil.

blahblah wrote,
Don't you think poverty,inequality and the traditional belief that women should stay a step below men contributes to violence when egoistic men find their women not so willing?

Well, that would be a case, where the man is pathetic.

blahblah wrote,
A man killed his wife with an axe when she kept asking him for money.It became clear in court that the man was a bonded labourer!He borrowed Rs.5000 for his daughter's marriage from the local landlord on the condition that he will work for him for six months.During this time he was allowed a daily ration of four raggi balls a day!The evidence in court proved that he brought most of the food home for his wife and most of the days he was starving and working on the field!

That would be the first one, the wife who keeps annoying the husband.

Well, maybe not a two reason theory, maybe 3. The third one being, psychological problems for one of them, or both.

[quote="blahblah"]How about an alcoholic and a drug addict?Don't you think poverty,inequality and the traditional belief that women should stay a step below men contributes to violence when egoistic men find their women not so willing?Don't you think polygamy and cheating are reasons?

So very true blahblah thank you for stating these reasons...im sorry Reena but i dont think that because someone is annoying is ever an excuse to hurt them in anyway.... :o the very sad thing about abuse is that women cause other women pain...it is mother-in-laws that encourage sons to discipline their wives and daughter-in-laws are no better either...some having heard so many horror stories disrespect their mother-in-law from the very beginning.. :x whatever the reason i will never believe that any reason as trivial as annoyance, attitude, rudeness, even lying is any reason to be abused....words do enough damage must hands and tools join in as well? :(

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And I remember my mother telling me the day before my marriage that a real man doesn't beat his wife taking advantage of the extra physical power given to us by God to protect our women :) .And she even warned me that if I ever did it she will be the one who will take me to the cops. :roll:

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Bravo to your mom, blahblah.

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So you are a feminist. Tell me one thing. There are two kinds of discrimination one against women and the other supporting women. Most feminists seem to support the second one while oppose the first. Isnt that hypocrisy?

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See, you missed my point. I said I am a feminist in the sense that I stand up for my rights - I am not one for the superiority of sexes as I believe that we are equal - after all the Shiva-Sakthi concept is a fundamental belief in our religion. If you need to label me, then "human rights activist" is a better description. 8)

I don't know about "hypocrisy" - it is the backlash of years of oppression - rabid feminists therefore see themselves as independent of men and can survive, in fact thrive without men. That's their belief, but basic rights as the right to vote and right to drive that are automatically given to men as birthrights are/were not available to women. So of course women resented that, and some went to the other extreme.

@cute ratchasi
not really ratchasi. real men are brave yet they are courteous.
they command respect.not like dummies. lol

I have seen very decent men hitting their wives ocassionally and feel ashamed later, because they could not take wagging of their tongue. Women know how to hurt men especially their husbands through their tongue. Men can never match this. Husbands who are not strong enough to withstand this, breakdown and hit their wives.
More decent the husband is, more is the wife's tongue wagging because she can get away with it.
Solution is simple but tough. It always takes two to have a fight. Don't respond to whatever the wife says. Nothing makes a woman more furious than to see a husband calm like Budha when she is letting a flurry on him!
Husbands, try at home, you can really enjoy it!! :D

But what I am talking above is elitist idea of violence.
Domestic violence in the real world is beyond imagination and comprehension of people who sit before the computers to spend time :cry: