Not really sure, stranger! Is adultery illegal? Or is it immoral? I know it is grounds enough for divorce, but consensual sex between adults of the opposite sex in India may still be legal!Quote:
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Not really sure, stranger! Is adultery illegal? Or is it immoral? I know it is grounds enough for divorce, but consensual sex between adults of the opposite sex in India may still be legal!Quote:
Originally Posted by stranger
Actually, that is really very true! Perversity always existed, right from ancient times, in all countries. Dredging it up is what media does, with two consequences -Quote:
Originally Posted by stranger
a) makes the prudes mutter appropriate sounds of extreme shock, and judge the rest of the world
b) tempts more people into trying it
and neither remedies anything, if it doesn't actually make it worse!!!!
And with no offense to anyone in this group here, methinks people get a perverse titillation in actually discussing about this, even if they only mean to condemn it!
Well, I read it somewhere!
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Again, "beuaty" can be defined according the individual's convenience! :)
So much for now! :D
SP,
I thought what Sandeep was saying is that husbands agree to let their wives go with another male just for the sake of being involved with another male (as I know it in the UK), and not for prostitution!
If it is for prostitution, then of course no one has the right to judge these people. But I wondering since you said these are people who usually have no food and perhaps in need of other basic things, isn't there any government/social programs to help out? Like in North America, we have the welfare system proving shelter, food and basic clothing and if that is not enough, say you overspend in other areas and have no food, there are other programs such as food banks. Women alone with children get the utmost support from the welfare system. I think if India adopts such programs, it would be of great relief.
As to the effects of globalization on our culture, its happening everywhere. I happen to visit a girl from my home town a few months back in G. Her husband said to me, "girls and boys nowadays here are not like in our time". There watch all the western TV shows etc. some even go on drugs. I am sure if I go back in a few years, things will even be worse than they are now.
The drugs bit is due to the influence of the West Indies. Now G is forced to take in blacks from Jamaica and elsewhere due to overcrowdedness and they bring their Rastafari (drugs and dredlocks hairstyle) style which G never had.
Lammy,
You are right! People go astray for whatever reason and they come back to themelves. Sometimes its influence, curiosity or need for something different. Sometimes only after all this, they can really "appreciate" what they had or who they were and desire and want it again with most "value". They say, nothing stays the same forever!
Let me first apologise for having brought up what is to be hushed up, pushed under the carpet. I overestimated the power of a public forum & misunderstood "mooda mooda rOgam"!
I sincerely wanted to see the reactions of fellow hubbers ( are they prudish or "liberal"). I am satisfied to find some nauseated like me. There can be no pleasure, no perverse titillation, at least not for me, in discussing such shameful matters. Did I misjudge the maturity of the hubbers?
The news stranger provides about the rarity of its occurrence is immensely relieving. I had an unnecessary fear it might be the tip of an iceberg, God forbid!
The concept of individual freedom, "none of your business, whatever I do" is mind-boggling, How much is legal, moral, communal involvement/relevance found in such "free behaviours"? How much can we afford to be "free" in societal, political life to do what we "like"?
Q, I quoted the premarital sex bit because I found good sense in it. I wanted many more to read it.
You mean you found me (goodsense) in it :lol:
A thin line between wanting to preserve "culture" and moral policing, the likes of which have stunned India (with the Chennai disco incident, the policemen slapping couples in park episode etc)Quote:
Originally Posted by pavalamani pragasam
Like it or not, we are becoming part of a world culture. A culture that is quite invasive. The good news is that there is a vast population left that wishes to retain its old cultural identity. As long as that population suceeds, the balance will be maintained.
But that said, questioners of freedom will not find themselves or their views too popular. At best, they might find themselves snubbed with a "well, you are free to try and impose your rigid values on us, but you are not going to succeed."
The constant fluttering and wringing of hands we have been seeing in the Hub whenever anything sensational comes up is lame! I would say, grow up, the world is not a garden of sweet smelling roses. Chamber pots there too. And cry as one might, the chamber pots are going to remain. We can choose to look at them and cry about their existence, or prefer to smell the sweetness of the roses and make our lives happy, like Shakthi said.
Thanx, badri!
""beuaty" can be defined according the individual's convenience!"
No one here is trying to define beauty, but if we were to define it, I think we would be referring to the natural qualities be it morally or physically and not the un-natural.
In open discussions, we should not be offended when the issue is negative, focussing on our own people or those closest to us, but to look at the issue objectively if anything postive will come out of it.
Here we are discussing the un-natural and there is no point for indirect attacks or is it just guilt of past-casted stones? I wasn't even thinking about that, I was just as shocked when I heard it in Britain :wink: Never imagined such a think can exist (man and wife agreeing to swap partners for the night at couple bars and moreover, someone you are meeting for first time and don't even know):x
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a) makes the prudes mutter appropriate sounds of extreme shock, and judge the rest of the world
b) tempts more people into trying it
and neither remedies anything, if it doesn't actually make it worse!!!!
that this discussion is encouraging any person to do any of these things is absurd, I think everyone here atleast has the sense and maturity not to cowardly and wrongly blame a topic as the reason to their waywardness. Is it not their own decision to do so, no one is being forced or coerced. Is this not a forum to discuss are we to just say we have better things to do than care about a wronged population? I genuinely feel appalled and so have expressed it, for those who only say so for docorum's sake (if there are such persons) then they are only lying to themselves, and what is sadder than that?