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Originally Posted by sbadri99

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Originally Posted by stranger

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Originally Posted by sbadri99

Although some may want to be more proactive and want to do something about this sorry state of affairs, I personally think your course of action is the wisest! It is, as you say, their life.

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Is that LEGAL :?:

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Not really sure, stranger! Is adultery illegal? Or is it immoral? I know it is grounds enough for divorce, but consensual sex between adults of the opposite sex in India may still be legal!

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To tell you about the legality of it in India, it is a bit strange..

Yes. Sexual relationship with a married (adult) man or a woman is illegal..
But a case can be filed in court only on the complaint of the affected, ie, wife or husband couple in relationship. Police or anybody else cannot take action unless there is a complaint from the affected party.
The strange thing is, a case can be filed only against the man and not the WOMAN. A woman cannot be tried for adultry in India. (She can be tried for prostitution)
Now you talk about gender bias!!! :o :o :) :)

80,118 people died in road accidents through out India in the year 2000. In the same year 5,555 people where killed due to terrorism.

Which one should we discuss about ?

Prostitution is many times more common than rape. So shall we keep quiet about rape.

Its not the numbers that is in question here but the severity of actions.

Here we are talking about people being "broad minded" (huh!!!) enough to share ones partner just so that they can enjoy another person. They many be the extreme of the society but on a whole it shows the general degradation of Morals.

No doubt it shows a degradation of morals, but tsktsking about it in a forum does nothing! It will perhaps apall those who have not heard of it! Their lives might have been better for not hearing about it at all, than feel apalled at the existence of such deviant practices!!

And neither can we hide behind the "knowledge" excuse here.

There are a million practices - good, bad and ugly - in this world, and knowledge of them all is not going to help anyone any much.

Rape is the wrong example to quote. If any of the women in question were forced into this, then it is a legal issue. But if they had no qualms about it any more than their husbands, it is a moral issue only, and where morals are concerned, it is each man/woman to his/her own. And no other may judge them.

http://www.guria.org

http://www.petitiononline.com/guria/

fine then Badri then if my shock is only a gesture of propriety than i hope this will slightly redeem me from being just a prude. Here is something that can be done.

Now we are talking, Q!!! This is action! This is what we need now, this is what will help!

Thanks! :)

And what about my proposal of social programs like we have here? Do we need a petition for that as well? Or my concerns are not important on this issue .... and only amount to being prudent?

Goodsense,

These are not cases of financial problems or anything. This is just moral degradation and hence social programs as in US will not help.

Plus to tell the truth our expectations form the government are far limited.

Sorry, I was a bit confused there and this is why I was waiting for a response from SP. Got carried away with other responses in the meantime and got even more confused.

Badri,

finally someone whom I agree upon fully.

Goodsense,

FOOD MEANS NOT FOOD. (I meant thirst for diff things) :roll:

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Originally Posted by goodsense

Lammy,
You are right! People go astray for whatever reason and they come back to themelves. Sometimes its influence, curiosity or need for something different. Sometimes only after all this, they can really "appreciate" what they had or who they were and desire and want it again with most "value". They say, nothing stays the same forever!

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Tks for ur response, GS! Sorry, been away the last couple of days, got back just this morn.! :)
Neways, u 2 r right abt this 'change' in todays India being due to curiosity, apart from influence/need for sumthing 'differnt'....! This wat even our spiritual guru at the local RK mission told me whenever I'd discussed such problems w/ him.....He also stated tat a time wud come when our ppl. realise the ashes beneath the bed of roses tat is intoxicating them at the present so a change for the better wud come but no telling how soon/later!
Its jus tat things like 'free' sex, lavish & 'freaky' life, which were earlier restricted or not commonly available here, happen to be curiosity-arousing to most ppl. today & w. the current-day media/cinema getting so powerful, its a matter of time for such 'forbidden' matters to spread around so publicly....plus todays education system tat cliams to be based on 'secular' grounds, w/ the result tat its making ppl. intellectually/professionally strong but value-weak! Not a good combination u'll agree?!
Btw, a more amusing thing- when I was in hyd. thes last 2 days, I stayed w. an old friend of my dad's......I'd visited the RK math over there the other day & my mum says when she'd once called his house at tat time, he kept commenting to her, how & y youth like me shud 'waste their time' visiting such places or hav such 'uncommon' interests! So like, am I supposed to hang out in pubs/niteclubs, which sound more 'common' for many of my age?! :roll: :huh:
And surprisingly, he happen to be quite conservative/traditional! He & his wife happen to visit tat math too.....
This jus shows tat hez the typical Indian parent of today (altho his 2 sons r settled/married)......he feels tat studies r not the most imp. but the ONLY aspect of ne youth of tat age! He doesn't even care abt one taking interest in things related 2 our own culture/values! Or perhaps they mostly feel tat we cud get it all by doing well in studies itself, which is the most foolish assumption I cud think of!
So this is one more imp. reason y ppl. from my gen. onwards (inc. many girls!) hav been going astray once they r independent adults!
Many avg. parents today don't care to realise this even if is staring at them in the face! but r good at the blame game (viz. TV, flims, 'bad' friends etc.....) :x