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Buddha took renounciation not because of having got fed up with Married life....Quote:
am also sure that people who married regretted it later.
By the way why did Buddha ran away and sat under the Bothi tree? Was he happy that he was married?
It was after going through certain shocking incidents in like :
1. Death
2. Class conflicts
3. Distinction between rich and poor
There are so many other points.... and not he got fed up with married life......
Anyway he left his wife alone! That is a fact and he did not do good to her by that.Quote:
Originally Posted by S.Balaji
Looking at your points 2 and 3 it seems like Buddha invented communism too! A marvelous chap he must have been.
Sivajayan you yourself said you are not indian. Why you care about indian values?.Quote:
It is easy for me to think and write this way because I am an european. My father is a Dutch-German-mixed and my mom is a thrown out brahmin. They kill each other and kiss each other. Hate each other and hug each other. Still continuing to do so.
Indians are not opinionated like western people. So the whole western policy of "why can't i do that? why can't i do this?" never applies to them. I have seen most western people never emotionally secure and are always on the lookout even if they are married.
Marriage and a spouse is all together a different feeling for indians.
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My post may seem queer.
I STILL HOLD THE VIEW the right age for a woman is
20 to 22
and for a man is...
25 to 27.
A man sure can AFFORD settling down decent enough to start a family. IF no, he can still strive with the support of his wife. Vice versa can happen too.
Settling down in life in the desired position is a never ending ladder to be climbed.
A job good enough to support a family is fair enough to start a family. The rest can be had slowly and steadily.
As for a woman..... my personal view is that, if she crosses 22 she has her own UNPERISHABLE view on many aspects and finds it tough to adjust with new situations. Esp since in an indian scenario, still there is an expectation that the woman should adjust with her in-laws THE Flexibility becomes NIL after a particular age.
The other reasons for this age is
1. The couple looks cute and not like old hefty UNCLES AND AUNTIES GETTING MARRIED.
2. There is lot of sweet nothings and romance to be expected at early 20s or mid twenties than at late twenties or early thirties, when both men and women become too practical to enjoy small things in life. Both of them are still not mature enough to be too mechanical/practical/down-to-earth at early or mid twenties.
3. At late twenties or early thirties couples are forced immy to try for a baby. With early marriage they have AMPLE time to plan, enjoy and understand each others company, Fall in love truly and THEN have a child.
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my 50 paise! EH... my 2 cents!?!?
sivajayan looks like u are ROCKING THE SHOW in this thread.Quote:
Originally Posted by "sivajayan
Budda did not do good to his wife. He did good to many others in multitude. There is a 'raja-nyathi' which says if its good for the whole nation there is nothing wrong in sacrificing the happiness of one in the family.
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He was just not hypocrite to lead a married life WHEN HE WAS not interested in one. Unlike many these days he had the GUTS to say NO.
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May be he offered her to come with him, to the world where there is no material wealth, to wander around in the quest of knowledge and SHE REFUSED! who knows!!!
Nobody eavesdropped on what they spoke before he suddenly dissappeared out into the woods!
Anniyan,Quote:
Originally Posted by stranger
is this an advice or a sarcastic remark??.. :lol: :lol:
hahaha...thats a good one Shekar!!....rightly said...Quote:
Originally Posted by Shekhar
:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
Nobody cares two hoots about YOUR indian values which probably are:Quote:
Originally Posted by visu
- Husband the master, wife the slave
- Huband eats first and wife serves
- Husband goes ahead, wife goes behind
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I said something about my stay in India this year in the Shame thread but unfortunately the moderators deleted my statements as it was against so called indian values.
When I was in India this Year I had some experiences also with married women. It is you who imagine that each and every european easily loses his/her slip as soon as you wag your hips. Very big BS you are producing!
So please don't tell me that they are that and we are this. There had been a controverse discussion going on here on this hub about Kushboo some weeks ago.
From my point of view people are the same where ever you go!
I ain't that strange as it looks like. It is a well wishing :lol:Quote:
Originally Posted by malligai
Malligai, I have heard recently that condom industry will make a big profit. Buy shares :lol:
Shakthi,Quote:
Originally Posted by Shakthiprabha
i disagree on this one...
The right age for a woman is NOT 20-22...see at that age we are just out of college...and all we know is all the fun one has with our friends, and the 'sheltered' life with our parents...at that age there is no 'worldly' knowledge at all...
living with ur family and friends and then having to give up all that :( and living with ur husband and in-laws....thats like living in two CONTRASTING WORLDS....thats sad for a girl pa....
it is like wrapping her like a christmas present and dumping her in some else's house... :razz:
but if the age is around 26-28 [it is afterall a few more years :)] , she is given a chance to get a better perspective of life and people...atleast she is given the chance to 'think' of what she wants to do in life, career etc...not all of us are 'made for marriages' u know....one might want to choose a different path...i just cant understand why everyone thinks that for every man and woman marriage is the ultimate goal... :roll:
and above all why should men be given the advantage of 'being free' longer?? :lol:
Anyways, once married, she is going to spend the rest of her life with her husband...so whats the hurry??.. :lol: