Love vs lust

Chappani,
Let me clear you my stand.. I am not talking about the love / affection part of it.. Love can exist with any relationship... even we might be in love with pets, some non-living creatures etc.

But here we are discussing on Love vs Lust part of it. I think this one should be viewed from the appropriate angle. That is, The influence of Love and Lust in our life.

I think it is not a general one like friendship, love with mom, dad, sister, brother etc.

We can have lust on only somepeople.. But love - we can have on anyone..

that is why, I suggested the title, KAADHAL VS KAAMAM.. You also agreed with that one

I think u r referring ANBU part of it.. I am just expressing my opinions about KAADHAL VS KAAMAM and not ANBU VS KAAMAM (as how u interpreted it). HOpe I am clear.


Beg to differ with your likeness and Hunger part of it.

Love and Lust are like "Interest" and "desire".. The next step in love results in Lust ... i.e., Interest becoming a desire and a burning desire or passion..

Great interpretation Selva :clap:
As rightly said ... Love n Love cannot be seperated ...

n for obvious reasons Anbu is very different from KaaDal !

Good Post Selva !

I think if u had read his post carefully he had mentioned about some distant relative who lead a love filled life without lust (NOT BROTHER, SISTER, DAD MOM) with her husband.

love is basis..... basic.........

lust arises when needed and IF needed.

lvoe can strive on its own.

powerful than lust.

I disagree, for successful love(between married couple) LUST is compulsory.

i FEEL LOVE is compulsory

Even the very feeling ......is LUST ! Doesnt mean that it has to be physically felt !

The very feeling of liking the physical appearance is also LUST !

it runs in ur mind ... n not necessarily known to everybody !

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YERkanavE Radha-Krishna paRRi pEsi pathetically misunderstood aanathaal thesis ezuthum aLavukku matter uLLa topic paRRi moochchu vida bayamaayirukkiRathu!!!

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Originally Posted by Shakthiprabha

I think if u had read his post carefully he had mentioned about some distant relative who lead a love filled life without lust (NOT BROTHER, SISTER, DAD MOM) with her husband.

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If u do have a relook into that post, you can understand that they are not able to deal with the lust part of it now.

But if u ask them, then they will agree with the fact that Lust did play a great role along with love(like a partner) in improving their married life.

Currently, they cannot deal with the lust part of it. But if it is, then it might have increased their love definitly.

But in the old age, love that was developed by lust over the years, dominates lust, In the young age, Lust dominates love and helps love in converting itself into a burning desire / crazy love.

I do agree with you that love is the basic thing when starting our married / love life. But the kick start is always provided by Lust. Without lust, the feeling of oneness never arises. Even if it arises, that will be a bit weak and won't be that much powerful when compared to Lust part of it.

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Originally Posted by bingleguy

Even the very feeling ......is LUST ! Doesnt mean that it has to be physically felt !

The very feeling of liking the physical appearance is also LUST !

it runs in ur mind ... n not necessarily known to everybody !

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Again a good one BG. :clap: Many people misunderstand Lust thinking that it has only physical connections.. IMHO, Lust is one step next to love in converting ourself from saying "both of us" to "we" / "us"

Lust - Higher version of Love / crazy / mad / etc

Love - a bit lower which can be depicted though somethings.

pp maam,

we are eager for ur views.

LUST IS HIGHER VERSION THAN LOVE? :roll:

I am clueless what to say.

SP,
Most of u people misunderstood my point. I never hailed Love above Lust and vice versa..

What I said was - Both work together and the effects of Lust are much more in uniting the people and creating a feeling of oneness.

Both work together at many times. That is my point. I never said that it is lust that creates everything blahblah.. HOpe I am clear.

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Originally Posted by selvakumar

I agree with you that we cannot separate the two. IMHO, Love makes the people connected for a long period of time. But during the initial years, it is the lust that increases their love life. Though lust has little presence when compared to love, that little presence indirectly influence the love on the concerned person. My point is : Lust has an indirect impact in increasing the love on a particular person. I am talking about pure love and the lust that is connected with it. I am not referring the plain lust that we can have on anybody. Ultimately, during the initial bonding, lust dominates love and opens the doors the pure love.

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I agree with you....I think during the intial stages of a relationship between a couple (not family, pets, etc.), lust dominates love because you need to have the desire/want to see, talk, hang out with that individual. There is something about him/her that makes you want to be with them - initially, that's lust. Obviously, we can't say that lust can turn into love. In some cases, the lust is simply a crush-and you get over it; and in other cases, it blossoms into love, which is real. I believe, that can happen with only one person - you better half. Lust is natural - it's like a crush.

So, you can't have pure love without lust - it's part love. Ultimately, to maintain and strengthen the relationship over the marriage years, pure love should rise above lust. And even then, you need a little bit of lust. Either way, I think lust and love go hand in hand; can't have love without lust.