A shame

[font=Arial, sans-serif]The concept of women working outside their home is not new to Indian and certainly not new to TamilNadu.
In my grandmother’s village i have seen women who go work in the fields in the morning and come back in the evening. Women whose families owned lands worked in their fields and the ones who didn't have their own worked in other’s fields. If they had babies or small children they took the children with them to work and the older children went to schools and played on their own. Can we accuse those women of neglecting their families and not inducing a family friendly environment at home? No because they did what did for survival. It is the same now and women are doing what they are doing now for survival.
What is required here is respecting people and their decision and much more importantly not judging them. Both men and women who choose family over career or vice versa should not be judged. Is the modern society not filled with enough pressure and stress that we want some more in the form of people judging us all the time.

While I sympathise with ur views, I wish to emphasise on my earlier point that women (or even men for tat matter) dont really need wht is called a 'career' (namely a job) to make an income on their own, as there r many flexible avenues for earning incomes w.out having to be tied up in a stereotyped 9-5 routine outside the home.
So even women staying at home dont have to be jus like the furniture/grocery in the house!
Y look at only jobs as a mandatory vehicle to earn money?
And IMO, things like 'career' have lately become words to impress the society & create an aura of 'status' more than nething else!

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Originally Posted by Lambretta

While I sympathise with ur views, I wish to emphasise on my earlier point that women (or even men for tat matter) dont really need wht is called a 'career' (namely a job) to make an income on their own, as there r many flexible avenues for earning incomes w.out having to be tied up in a stereotyped 9-5 routine outside the home.
So even women staying at home dont have to be jus like the furniture/grocery in the house!
Y look at only jobs as a mandatory vehicle to earn money?
And IMO, things like 'career' have lately become words to impress the society & create an aura of 'status' more than nething else!

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Not everyone has the luxury of choosing not to work in a 9-5 job. Career is not only to impress people. IMO chasing careers is hardwired into the human system. It is called survival. If one doesn't seize an opportunity esp in a developing country like India, then one will be left behind. Most of the women and men chase their careers to provide better lifestyle for their families and themselves. Now the definition of better lifestyle varies, but the motive is unquestionable.
What is wrong in having career aspirations? - aspirations are important for human survival and evolution. If not for that, how could the human species survive. If we were happy being hunter - gatherers, then humans would not have been the most successful species in this world, we would be extinct long ago.

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Originally Posted by dsath

What is wrong in having career aspirations? - aspirations are important for human survival and evolution. If not for that, how could the human species survive. If we were happy being hunter - gatherers, then humans would not have been the most successful species in this world, we would be extinct long ago.

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I'm not saying we should revert to being hunters/gatherers. Definitely we should aspire for oppurtunities for a better life. But y must that be only in the form of a job/career?? Infact ppl. going in this line happen to be so caught up in the routine mechanical cycle it creates tat they forget about whatever aspirations in life they had while choosing it!
And no, choosing some other venture (I dont mean not doing anything for a living) is not a question of luxury, its just choice.
I might be digressing from the topic here but what I mean to stress is how jobs are being projected as the ultimate way of survival in society, esp. in ours, where stereotyped thinking exists in this regard! Thus ppl. think that those (inc. women) who want to think out of the box by choosing not to pursue a job for the rest of their active lives are worthless!
Believe it or not, even India is changing in the sense that unlike earlier, a job need not be the only way to survive (for men or for women) or be successful in life. There are many ventures in India nowadays, where women with the lowest educational qualifications & total lack of career-orientation have come up as well as, or even better than those choosing the conventional 9-5 career-oriented routine.

My wife is a house wife.

She has more money in the bank account than me. (She never shows me her pass book, but I know :wink: )
She has more freedom than me.
She has more leisure time than me.
She has more dresses than me. (many times more !!!)
She has lot of jewels. I have none.
I have bosses. She has none.
I can hardly command in office and get away with it. She does all the time at home, and gets away with it every time.
She has a good, faithful, servant at home who also earns money for her. I have none.
She doesnot have to worry about phone bill, electricity bill, gas bill etc., because she has somebody else to pay. But I have to.
She has a chaffeur who has bought the car for her and pays for the maintenence. I dont.

Now, what are you guys talking about?!!!

:lol: @ shekhar...

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Originally Posted by Shekhar

My wife is a house wife.

She has more money in the bank account than me. (She never shows me her pass book, but I know :wink: )
She has more freedom than me.
She has more leisure time than me.
She has more dresses than me. (many times more !!!)
She has lot of jewels. I have none.
I have bosses. She has none.
I can hardly command in office and get away with it. She does all the time at home, and gets away with it every time.
She has a good, faithful, servant at home who also earns money for her. I have none.
She doesnot have to worry about phone bill, electricity bill, gas bill etc., because she has somebody else to pay. But I have to.
She has a chaffeur who has bought the car for her and pays for the maintenence. I dont.

Now, what are you guys talking about?!!!

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:rotfl: :rotfl:

Shekhar,

No wonder you were missed so much :lol:

lol shekar, swap positions then. no prob.

Shekhar, that is a classic posting, again! :rotfl:
All women should naturally envy your wife, aspire for a similar position. Under all that complaining I detect a great pride for being her MAN! :wink: You forgot to add she is 'educated'- because that is the bone of contention now! :lol:

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Originally Posted by Shekhar

My wife is a house wife.

She has more money in the bank account than me. (She never shows me her pass book, but I know :wink: )
She has more freedom than me.
She has more leisure time than me.
She has more dresses than me. (many times more !!!)
She has lot of jewels. I have none.
I have bosses. She has none.
I can hardly command in office and get away with it. She does all the time at home, and gets away with it every time.
She has a good, faithful, servant at home who also earns money for her. I have none.
She doesnot have to worry about phone bill, electricity bill, gas bill etc., because she has somebody else to pay. But I have to.
She has a chaffeur who has bought the car for her and pays for the maintenence. I dont.

Now, what are you guys talking about?!!!

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welcome back shekar. :)

I very used to these dialgoes, dont ask me HOW :lol: