Ideal age to get married

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Originally Posted by malligai

not all of us are 'made for marriages' u know....one might want to choose a different path...i just cant understand why everyone thinks that for every man and woman marriage is the ultimate goal... :roll:

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I stand by you, malligai... It was an exact reflection of my views... :clap:

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Originally Posted by malligai

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Originally Posted by Shakthiprabha

My post may seem queer.

I STILL HOLD THE VIEW the right age for a woman is

20 to 22

and for a man is...

25 to 27.

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As for a woman..... my personal view is that, if she crosses 22 she has her own UNPERISHABLE view on many aspects and finds it tough to adjust with new situations. Esp since in an indian scenario, still there is an expectation that the woman should adjust with her in-laws THE Flexibility becomes NIL after a particular age.

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The right age for a woman is NOT 20-22...see at that age we are just out of college...and all we know is all the fun one has with our friends, and the 'sheltered' life with our parents...at that age there is no 'worldly' knowledge at all...

living with ur family and friends and then having to give up all that :( and living with ur husband and in-laws....thats like living in two CONTRASTING WORLDS....thats sad for a girl pa....

it is like wrapping her like a christmas present and dumping her in some else's house... :razz:

but if the age is around 26-28 [it is afterall a few more years :)] , she is given a chance to get a better perspective of life and people...atleast she is given the chance to 'think' of what she wants to do in life, career etc...not all of us are 'made for marriages' u know....one might want to choose a different path...i just cant understand why everyone thinks that for every man and woman marriage is the ultimate goal... :roll:

and above all why should men be given the advantage of 'being free' longer?? :lol:

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Well the topic was about IDEAL AGE to get marriage (now that someone has decided to get maried).

Given a chance, many of us KNOW we want a different path or we are made to achieve different goals. Thats why I say, DONT GIVE THEM CHANCE! :)) . Before they
realise what they are into, JUST PUSH THEM IN :twisted:

"Yaan petra inbam peruga ivvaiyagam" goes the saying :D

Seriously speaking, I find, THE disagreements are more
when we mature to become practical or grow wiser :? ??

With hardened ego and stubborn views, the couples these days lose their aims/goals by getting tangled in a wrong marriage and live hell life.

At a relatively tender age, The ego of both man and the woman is barely surfaced. Both would learn to live and let live with much ease.

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Originally Posted by sivajayan

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Originally Posted by visu

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It is easy for me to think and write this way because I am an european. My father is a Dutch-German-mixed and my mom is a thrown out brahmin. They kill each other and kiss each other. Hate each other and hug each other. Still continuing to do so.

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Sivajayan you yourself said you are not indian. Why you care about indian values?.
Indians are not opinionated like western people. So the whole western policy of "why can't i do that? why can't i do this?" never applies to them. I have seen most western people never emotionally secure and are always on the lookout even if they are married.
Marriage and a spouse is all together a different feeling for indians.

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Nobody cares two hoots about YOUR indian values which probably are:
- Husband the master, wife the slave
- Huband eats first and wife serves
- Husband goes ahead, wife goes behind
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HELLOW....get a BREAK!
Which century indians are u talking about?
I assume ur stay in **OUR** india, did not teach u
much about the recent Indians

We are as senile and sensible as westerners if not more.
Please dont presume about INDIANS in ur own
ancient ways.

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Originally Posted by Shakthiprabha

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"Yaan petra inbam peruga ivvaiyagam" goes the saying :D

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Shakthi, on this one...i definetely agree... :lol:

aaha

ella acca maarum ondru senthutangappa ondru senthutanga :lol: :lol:

laklaklaklaklak

vatta :lol:

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Originally Posted by sivajayan

Nobody cares two hoots about YOUR indian values which probably are:
- Husband the master, wife the slave
- Huband eats first and wife serves
- Husband goes ahead, wife goes behind
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I said something about my stay in India this year in the Shame thread but unfortunately the moderators deleted my statements as it was against so called indian values.
When I was in India this Year I had some experiences also with married women. It is you who imagine that each and every european easily loses his/her slip as soon as you wag your hips. Very big BS you are producing!
So please don't tell me that they are that and we are this. There had been a controverse discussion going on here on this hub about Kushboo some weeks ago.

From my point of view people are the same where ever you go!

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//Nobody cares two hoots about YOUR indian values //--then that NOBODY must be U... :evil:

bcos WE DO CARE FOR OUR INDIAN VALUES...and there is NOTHING wrong in a wife serving her husband ok...before it was done bcos the husband worked the whole day outside, and the wife cooked for him at home...so she waited to serve him, NOT bcos she was forced to, bcos she wanted too..

even now in our family, on festive days we follow this...we serve food on plaintain leaves, sit on the floor, and let the men eat first...this is not bcos we dont have dining tables or plates...that is our custom, and we like to keep it 'live and kicking'...

if u have any problems with it, then think twice of what u r supposed to do... :lol:

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Originally Posted by malligai

bcos WE DO CARE FOR OUR INDIAN VALUES...and there is NOTHING wrong in a wife serving her husband ok...before it was done bcos the husband worked the whole day outside, and the wife cooked for him at home...so she waited to serve him, NOT bcos she was forced to, bcos she wanted too..

even now in our family, on festive days we follow this...we serve food on plaintain leaves, sit on the floor, and let the men eat first...this is not bcos we dont have dining tables or plates...that is our custom, and we like to keep it 'live and kicking'...

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bale well said, apadi solunga malligai, :thumbsup: :thumbsup: :clap: :clap:

Thai naataiyum, Kalacharathiyum marakiravanga sontha thaiya marakira mathiri :x :evil: :twisted: , ivankaluku maanipei :!: kidaiyathu

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Originally Posted by malligai

//Nobody cares two hoots about YOUR indian values //--then that NOBODY must be U... :evil:

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Oh, I still have a body. I'm not a ghost, not yet. :lol:

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Originally Posted by malligai

bcos WE DO CARE FOR OUR INDIAN VALUES...and there is NOTHING wrong in a wife serving her husband ok...before it was done bcos the husband worked the whole day outside, and the wife cooked for him at home...so she waited to serve him, NOT bcos she was forced to, bcos she wanted too..

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Will I get a cup of coffee served at my bed early in the morning?
Will I be fed too?
Will I be put to bed with a goodnight story every night also?
If yes, then I must go for an indian bride. If I only have to bring money home it is simple for me. I have an account (not empty), a valid card and I only need a machine to draw the money.
cash machines - will it go in India? :lol:

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Originally Posted by malligai

even now in our family, on festive days we follow this...we serve food on plaintain leaves, sit on the floor, and let the men eat first...this is not bcos we dont have dining tables or plates...that is our custom, and we like to keep it 'live and kicking'...

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You are not kidding me?
I really thought that the plantain leaves are your fresh salad.
I also asked for a fork and a knife and learnt that it does not go on banana leaves.
Poor me, I'm sooo stupid. :lol:

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Originally Posted by malligai

if u have any problems with it, then think twice of what u r supposed to do... :lol:

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If my thinking twice produce the same result what should I do? Can I have your number, please? :lol:

Well you guyz are talking about whether we need marriage or not....for this i wanna tell u only one thing....If everybody started to "Live together" without marriage..then what is the difference between Human being and a dog..Even dog does the same thing....Afterall marriage leads to a discipline life...

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Originally Posted by Beckham

Well you guyz are talking about whether we need marriage or not....for this i wanna tell u only one thing....If everybody started to "Live together" without marriage..then what is the difference between Human being and a dog..Even dog does the same thing....Afterall marriage leads to a discipline life...

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Even married couples bark at each other! Do dogs bark, Beckham? Are the married couples dogs?
There are some birds like swans or stork and a couple more have only one partner their whole life time. If they had a priest then they'll marry I guess! :lol: