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21st March 2006, 08:19 PM
selvakumar

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sinthu,
Got to go now.. will reply to this one tomorrow..
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21st March 2006, 08:34 PM
pavalamani pragasam

SP, naan intha aattaththukku varala! "perusukalukku" ennaththa perusaa therinjsirukkap pOkuthu??? :wink:
21st March 2006, 08:42 PM
pavalamani pragasam

YEn iraNdu pEr orE avathaaraththai eduththurukkiReerkaL???
22nd March 2006, 02:40 AM
gorgeous gaayini

Some people like my cousin :banghead: fall in love through internet....

she lives here in england her boyfriend that she has never met :rotfl: lives in Sri Lanka, in jaffna.....

possible? :roll: :oops:
22nd March 2006, 02:45 AM
malsi

why are you laughing at your cousin gaayini..i feel that you shouldnt be making fun of her situation..well.it is something that she and her bf have to decide for themselves..whether it is possible or not..not you..not me..and not anyone else..
22nd March 2006, 03:20 AM
gorgeous gaayini

No no athu ila...i'm laughing and irritated by her cos she doesnt even know if he is a 80 year old stranger playing with her...and she is soo seriously in deep love with him....i mean internet love through which friends connect u with people is fine because u can trust friends and u will know if its a stranger or not...and its more safe...but this girl...my cousins...goes into a chat room and picks out a guy at random and has been loving for 2 years or so....:banghead: what if he is not the person he says he is....riddiculous.

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Originally Posted by malsi

why are you laughing at your cousin gaayini..i feel that you shouldnt be making fun of her situation..well.it is something that she and her bf have to decide for themselves..whether it is possible or not..not you..not me..and not anyone else..
22nd March 2006, 06:47 PM
selvakumar

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Originally Posted by sinthiya

.I think during the intial stages of a relationship between a couple (not family, pets, etc.), lust dominates love because you need to have the desire/want to see, talk, hang out with that individual. There is something about him/her that makes you want to be with them - initially, that's lust.

Well.. I would like to say that those initial stages are crucial. Infact lust determines the permanent love realtionship between the two at this time. so, Lust dominates the love more in this time. Eventually, or over a period of time, they understand each other and after that the part played by lust decreases and love that grew out of the lust fills the rest of the life. Again, I don't want to refer lust as mere crush. Crush is not the one that we can have on a single person. Even that can be had on some of our favorite people and others. IMHO, crush and lust are two different things. Lust operates along with love. but crush :roll: it might operate alone (or arise in a single person rather than in both the minds)

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Obviously, we can't say that lust can turn into love. In some cases, the lust is simply a crush-and you get over it; and in other cases, it blossoms into love, which is real. I believe, that can happen with only one person - you better half. Lust is natural - it's like a crush.

NO.. The result of the lust mainly determines the love. It is the lust during the initial days acts as a bedrock for the love plant to grow. I do agree with u that it can happen on only one person. Lust and love goes hand in hand in this part

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So, you can't have pure love without lust - it's part love. Ultimately, to maintain and strengthen the relationship over the marriage years, pure love should rise above lust. And even then, you need a little bit of lust. Either way, I think lust and love go hand in hand; can't have love without lust.

No need for love to rise above lust. It depends on the people under consideration. For eg, even in old age, we depict our love towards somebody thru low profile lust like kissing on the forehead etc. It need not be a pure physical relationship. Even they can join hands, stay close together to depict their love through such low profile lust things.
22nd March 2006, 07:03 PM
Shakthiprabha.

SELVAKUMAR DEFINES lust as anythign to do with physical contact :ROLL:

:|
22nd March 2006, 07:08 PM
selvakumar

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Originally Posted by Shakthiprabha

SELVAKUMAR DEFINES lust as anythign to do with physical contact :ROLL:

:|

ofcoure SP.

If we kiss on a baby's forehead then that will depict our love.

But if we .............. then it will be a combination of love+lust.

Hope I won't go further into this. :|
22nd March 2006, 08:08 PM
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Originally Posted by selvakumar

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Originally Posted by Shakthiprabha

SELVAKUMAR DEFINES lust as anythign to do with physical contact :ROLL:

:|

ofcoure SP.

If we kiss on a baby's forehead then that will depict our love.

But if we .............. then it will be a combination of love+lust.

Hope I won't go further into this. :|

Machi, rocking explanation :lol: :lol:

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