Does Love Exist?

Sathya :thumbsup: well written. Sujathavoda 'ஆக்ரமிப்பு' (ஓலை பட்டாசு) padichirukeengala? padikalana padichu paarunga, you will like it!

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Originally Posted by Plum

Querida - replace women with men. It's all the same. I mean, without looking at it cynically, the fact is rejection is not a big deal. Even if the way Sathya put it sounds cynical and bitter, I tend to believe that he probably doesnt intend it that way.

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Originally Posted by P_R

'Getting used to' exists.
Pardon the gray hue in place of the pink.

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Yes I know what you both say is true, and I do agree. It was the bitterness and the use of sameness for only women that compelled me to protest. Btw PR I prefer gray to pink any day.

I would say it's more about the number/degree of rosy qualities that interests/attracts you to that person, as well as the amount/degree of less-rosy qualities that you're willing to put up with/live with/do not know yet. It's the self-convincing of how compatible you are to this person that makes rejection a bitter pill to swallow.

Oh gray is a very safe color. To choose pink is to make oneself vulnerable (as the cliche goes (see that's the urge to grayness again that adds this qualifier)!)

Regarding the 'qualities' business I think we exaggerate our likes and dislikes in order to categorize ourselves: I like music is different from I am a music lover.

Where does taste move from being a (mere) function of one's personality to a dominant composition of one's identity!

Mostly, this is motivated by an attempt to 'fit in' rather than be out of step (the ego doth strictly command to recognize oneself as unique out of step personalities). But sometimes, even we find it 'convenient' to tag ourselves based on 'liking'. Not entirely 'true'.

It is like those moments when we see ourselves in the mirror and feel a strange otherness. Who the hell is this guy?! Jeez, is this how we are perceived, thought of, summarized, reacted to? None of which may conform to what one is, or atleast one one likes to think of oneself as.

That's why I surmise that knowability (and any liking that proceeds from that), is pretty much out of question.

But far from being bleak, I exude optimism:

Unless there are fundamental problems in attitude in one of them, any two people with a decent sense of equity and balance can pretty much get along well. And as they build memories together and share experiences together it will stick.

And what they celebrate after years of togetherness can possibly called love. Else Hallmark will go under. :-)

I wonder how much I could convince/be lauded if I could write like this.... :think: :D

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Originally Posted by Querida

Satya you should continue writing :) you have an eye to be detailed, as well as succinct. Your analogies are unique yet create new meaning like battery/cricketer reference.

I know it's easier to ignore rather than attest, especially when in minority here
but no offense and of course no surprise but IMHO if we all thought point 3 was true (for both genders) then what a meaningless world to live in. :( If ending up with "one" :roll: was the whole issue it wouldn't affect this much...your other lessons ring true enough but if the bitterness of experiences taint every experience..has one really learned something or just learned to know its bitterness only?

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Thanks for the feedback Que! Yes, point 3 is not aimed at women alone. My opinion is any relationship comes with an expiry date. So, there is no point in chasing something and somebody too much. "too much" varies from individual to individual.

I dnt have any bitterness whatsoever. I have not even cursed that guy and the gal. Yes, I implemented a few lessons I learnt from this! At the same time, did a couple of mistakes again in the next few episodes :lol:

Sathya bro, eagerly waiting for the next episodes :D.

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Originally Posted by 19thmay

Sathya :thumbsup: well written. Sujathavoda 'ஆக்ரமிப்பு' (ஓலை பட்டாசு) padichirukeengala? padikalana padichu paarunga, you will like it!

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nanRi hai Sridhar! Ling kedaikkumaa?

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Originally Posted by Dhakshan

Sathya bro, eagerly waiting for the next episodes :D.

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aduththu vEra yaaraachum (Plum?) Love Story postungappaa!

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

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Originally Posted by Dhakshan

Sathya bro, eagerly waiting for the next episodes :D.

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aduththu vEra yaaraachum (Plum?) Love Story postungappaa!

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Next Plum's love story post-unga :yes:

Wow that was intense. NOT what I expected.

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Originally Posted by sathya_1979

3) Don't bother if your love is not reciprocated. Afterall all women are the same and nobody is special. So, some day or the other you will end up with one.

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Beg to differ. If no one's special we might as well end up with any person right? Why do we wait till we find that mr/miss perfect for us?