A shame

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Originally Posted by mr_karthik

Jilaba..!, your arguements are foolishness (sorry).

Are our Indian women ready to live without marriage?. definitely the answer will be negative. Here also many memebers (including me) are opposing your statement.

Our women will never neglect the concept of marriage, but will fall in it and then cry "aangal enagalai saavadikiraargal, kollugiraargal, kodumai paduthukiraargal".

But not even a single women will appose marriage. They will marry at any cost, by giving dowry etc. and then will file the case in the 'kudumba nala court' for divorce. On watching all these things, other women also will fall in marriages. Because, they cant live without "............." or to control it.

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:roll: Enna solla vareenga neenga?... enakku puriyalai!!!... :roll:

A war scene - woman bashing on one side & man bashing on the other side! :( Why such extreme stands?

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Originally Posted by pavalamani pragasam

A war scene - woman bashing on one side & man bashing on the other side! :( Why such extreme stands?

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PP mam, there is nothing to worry. Age will mellow everything.
I can understand Jilaba's feeling. I had similar anti marriage feelings in my teen years. As we grow older, our extremism reduces and we can see more sense. :)
The problem is, men don't acknowledge the evils done against women and ignore them. All the hen-pecked husband jokes in our magazines don't help either. How many posts from male hubbers have we seen supporting or at least sympathizing with issues relating to Women's right (no controversy intended, just a general observation :) ). It is almost a taboo subject with men. This is what triggers extreme feelings like Jiaba's.
Of course there has been some positive changes between my parent's generation and mine, but still there is a long way to go.

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Originally Posted by Roshan

Selva and Lamby,

When there are so many things happening against poor, vulnerable and marginalised women around the world - see you guys are bothered and concerned about the wayward behaviour of possibly an elite, upper class, rich woman. It's sad and pathetic :( Where are we and what is the way forward? I dont understand :( :cry:

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Roshan,
That was just a reply to Jilaba ! Jilaba is concentrating only on the second category of women and is justifying their actions. Don't take that one seriously :P

Alright Selva.. No probs :) :D 8-)

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Originally Posted by Jilaba

இந்த 'திருமணம்' என்ற கேடுகெட்ட வழக்கத்தை, தங்கள் ஆதிக்கத்துக்காக ஆண்களால் உருவாக்கப்பட்ட வழக்கத்தை கையில் வைத்துக்கொண்டுதானே இந்த பேயாட்டம் போடுகிறீர்கள். அதை உடைத்தெறியும் காலம் வந்து விட்டது. திருமணத்தை விரும்பாத பெண்கள் சமுதாயம் உருவாகிக்கொண்டு இருக்கிறது.

இனி ஆண்களின் பாடு அதோகதிதான்.

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hum.... idhu verum maayai, avvalavuthaan. anaal unmai nilai veru.

neengal vendumaanaal appadiyirukkalaam (evvalavu naalaikkunnu theriyaathu). anaa matra pengal appadiyillai.

"evvalavu varadhanai (dowry) koduththaavathu thirumanam seythe aaga vendum. thirumanam illaamal engallal vaazha mudiyaathu" endra nilaithaan pengalidam needikkirathu. adhai ungalaal onnum seyya mudiyaathu.

because, pengale ungalai support panna maattaargal. (indha threadil ulla pengal ulpada)

karthik..

dowry koduthAvadhu thirumaNam seidhu koNdE theeruvOm enRu nichayam peNgaL ninaikka mAttArgaL. samudhAyathin kattAyamum, kudumbathil uLLa matRavargaLin mana nilaiyai ninaithumE peNgaL vERu vazhi illAmal varadhatchinai koduthAvadhu thirumaNam aagattum enRu oppu koLgiRargaL.

uNmaiyil andha kAlathil "adhoo dhakshinai" enRa peyaril peN veetukku paNam koduthu avaLai pANigrahaNam seidhu koLLa vENdum enRa nilai irunthadhAm. Innum kooda gramangaLil parisam pOduvadhu enRa vishayam irundhu koNduthAn irukkiRadhu.

ingE sollapaduvadhu ellAm generalisation aaga mudiyAdhu. ivai ellAm avangavangaLukku open aagira jannal vazhiyE theriyum ulagam.. adhu muzhumaiyAnadhu alla.

May be if a particular type of opionion comes from most of the people here.. adhu ingu mattum nijam pOla thoNRum. avvaLavuthAn :P

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Originally Posted by madhu

ivai ellAm avangavangaLukku open aagira jannal vazhiyE theriyum ulagam.. adhu muzhumaiyAnadhu alla.

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:clap: oru marathil irukkum kanigalil naam parikkum kani azhugalaaga irundhaal adhu marathin kutram alla.. kaniyai sariyaaga pariseelanai seiyaamal paritha namadhu kutram :)

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Originally Posted by mr_karthik

"evvalavu varadhanai (dowry) koduththaavathu thirumanam seythe aaga vendum. thirumanam illaamal engallal vaazha mudiyaathu" endra nilaithaan pengalidam needikkirathu. adhai ungalaal onnum seyya mudiyaathu.

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Unfortunately YES !! - as long as the subcontinent is concerned. Exceptions latchathil onRuthAn. I even have seen some girls - who chose their partners themselves pestering their parents to give the required dowry in order to satisfy the guys' family and get their approval. Naan pArtha varaiyil 95% of arranged marriages paNathAl mudivu seyyappattavaiyE :evil:

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Originally Posted by mgb

:clap: oru marathil irukkum kanigalil naam parikkum kani azhugalaaga irundhaal adhu marathin kutram alla.. kaniyai sariyaaga pariseelanai seiyaamal paritha namadhu kutram :)

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Socratees kettAr pOnga....

sari, idhan moolam thAngaL therivikka virumbuvathu..??.