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இந்த த்ரெட்டை ஏன் கிடப்பில் போட்டுட்டீங்க?.
ஆண்களைத் திட்டித்தீர்க்க அருமையான களமாயிற்றே.
பெண்களுக்கும் இஙு திட்டு குட்டு எல்லாம் கொடுக்கப்படுமே, வெட்ககேட்டை சொல்லும் போது ஆணென்ன பெண்ணென்ன பாகுபாடெல்லாம் கிடையாது!!!
Some armchair musings:
True to my tagline as I watch the trends of the world and from two latest stories that came to my knowledge I see what a thorny bed love marriage can be. I am amused, annoyed, outraged & ashamed by the various implications of these incidents.
First is the love story of 2 college birds in an engineering college. Both families being broadminded in allowing full freedom to their wards nothing unhappy happened throughout their course & afterwards when both were suitably placed in jobs. The boy's parents thought the time ripe for consummating the marriage. At this junction cropped up a problem: though both belonged to the same community, the boy's family is Hindu & the girl's family is Christian. The girl & her family asked the boy to convert to Christianity before taking the final step. The boy's family was not eager to convert him, but willing to let him walk to the altar to take the marriage oath in their style. But it was allowed only if he converted which involved his attending Bible classes for a stipulated time. At this prospect the boy's family, including him, did serious rethinking and called off the wedding. Now the boy's mother who is my acquaintance is looking for an alliance for son in the traditional procedure. The love story being no secret many of the eligible brides' parents are looking askance.
What baffles me is how was the boy clueless to the girl's religious convictions during his courtship. What annoys me is the necessity for both of them to turn a new leaf after having dreamt of marriage with each other for so many years. What are the effects of the past on their future lives? Have they not marred their own pure enjoyment? Was it inevitable? How strong is 'love' today? How do priorities change so easily? How beautiful would it have been to start life on a clean slate? Why can't youth have a clear perception of their life choices? All round embarrassment in both families. This not being intelligent or responsible on the part of young people whom I look upon so much for a dignified tomorrow. So, 'love' is a soap bubble to vanish in thin air! Empty nothingness?
The second is still more serious. Here the professionals in love are of 2 different religions: Mudhaliar boy & Muslim girl. Both parents out of compulsion, decency, magnanimity have consented. The boy's mother demands the girl's name be changed & wedding solemnised in their traditional way. The elders of the girl's family are agonised & outraged. The mother laments at the loving care she took in choosing a name for her when she was born. A date is fixed for the engagement which is to be in the mode of the boy's family tradition. Though the girl's house is palatial, roomy enough for the function, the menfolk are too wounded to have it under their roof. So a hall is being arranged. No cheer in the girl's family for the rites unknown/unfamiliar to them. Sincere involvement, cooperation in the proceedings carries the danger of ruffling the feathers of their religious heads which might even lead to very serious predicaments of violent eruptions. The general relief would have been a register office marriage followed by a dinner in a hall. But the boy's mother is bent on a traditional marriage. The boy says he will look after well once she becomes their family member. If he can't make his mother respect their sentiments now how is he going to after? Tries to play goody boy to both mother & lover. A coward, in short. Is not the girl taking too big risk, gambling her happiness on the assurance of an inept boy? Does she realise the pain she is causing to her parents & relatives? After all is not the blessings of elders the most precious dowry a girl take to her in-laws' house?
Bitter compromises making the base of a marriage makes it a travesty! Love is blind, they say. Very true. Inconsiderate & thankless too. Is it love or pure play of hormones, unthinking attraction, practically unwise bringing unnecessary pain & problems? Blessed are the parents with children who do not succumb to such fatal fancies!!!
sounds weird :?
did they never bothered to talk about religion/ conversion b4 the marriage?
if the really loved :? each other ...why couldnt they simply go for a reg. marriage? rendu pakkathukkum sangadam illaama poi irukkume :roll:
seems like they were fooling themself and us ...
it was just a play/ fun for them ?!
hm...eeshwara
Heartburns for bringing up such irresponsible, idiotic, inconsiderate children!
enakku ennamo parents melayum konjam thappu irukkunnu thaan thonudhu...
:notthatway: Avanga periyavanga. Avanga edhu senchaalum thappilla. Don't you know that?Quote:
Originally Posted by crazy
yeah...but adhu epadi pasanga pazhagum varaikkum religion oru prachanai'ya theriyaadhavanga ...kalyanathuappo thaan vandhu ...mudiyaathu/ pidikkala/ aahadhu etc solluvaanga :?Quote:
Originally Posted by littlemaster1982
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Tries to play goody boy to both mother & lover. A coward, in short.
indha topic kku podhuvaa sollalai ...
iru tharappaiyum samaalikka - samathuvamaa - samadhaanamaa - balanced aa irundha - is that termed as KOZHAITHANAM :-)