An issue

mellon,

You got me all wrong.
I never suggested that you adopt a baby for patriotic reasons or as a social service. Infact I am very apprehensive about people who declare themselves as patriots or as Social Workers.
It is also wrong that I 'adopted' (I hate to use this word) my daughter to give her a life. Such a notion is an insult to my daughter's existence. I took her because I felt the need to love that baby when I saw her. She has given my family more than what she has got from us.
Having experienced this heavenly relationship, I suggested that it is simple straightforward solution for childless couples, if only they change their mindset on adoption vis-a-vis having genetic offspring. This is where paradigm shift comes in. If they are bent upon having genetic offspring inspite of their natural inability to produce a baby, ruling out adoption, then they must be ready to face the complications and difficulties.
These issues are not arguable given a particular mindset. Well... each one to his path.. "Each path prescribes its own obligations"

....And Shekhar.. I think Cygnus and the others understood your point well. In my opinon both of you carried out the discussion in a mature and intellectual manner. For that matter PP madam, scorpio, querida, blahblaha .. all did their part well. And I dont see any necessity for a middleman to come in between you and Cygnus - especially at the eleventh hour, when you and Cygnus have developed a better understanding and have respect for each others views :wink:

Mellon is free to speak about her opinion. Shekhar made a calm reply. This is the spirit of a discussion.
In today’s “The Hindu” there is an editorial on “cord blood banking”- I mention this to recall my informing while discussing the greatness & marvel surrounding motherhood about the umbilical cord blood being a rich source of stem cells very vital for various medical treatment.

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Originally Posted by pavalamani pragasam

Mellon is free to speak about her opinion. Shekhar made a calm reply. This is the spirit of a discussion.

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Yes !!! that should be the spirit as long as there's no ulterior motives involved :wink: coz, that definitely spoils the 'spirit' of a good discussion. !!!

Anyways, this week'ss kungumam too carries an article which is somewhat related to the issue discussed here.

Each and everyone one of you deserve equal acknowledgement for the good job done here.

Well done!

Thanks ratchasi :D

But I really missed you here !!

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Originally Posted by Roshan

Thanks ratchasi :D

But I really missed you here !!

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Well, Roshan, I wanted to comment on certain matters raised here besides to opine my stance on the 'issue'. Unfortunately (rather fortunately as I see it now) I wasnt able to do due to other commitments.

However, seeing the posts made by buddies here, especially the very points that I had in mind, made me realise that perhaps I would not have justified my thoughts as well as you guys did.

On the other hand, I believe it is just a matter of time before the new hub picks up speed to join the ranks of our beloved old hub!!
Cheers to all!!
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Do we have to read between the lines? :wink:

That is not just enough, PP. You need to be a "mind-reader" as well and "imagine" as much as u could. You always get the right "scenario" based on your "imagination". As long as u dont tell that explicitly to others and talk in a language which can be understood only by urself, u r safe and u r "correct" and u r the "winner"! :)

mellon:

Thanks for your thoughts :D I take it that you have cited me in terms of adding strength to that view point, not to mediate between my arguments and others'.

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Originally Posted by mellon

Because I believe the couples those who have the problem only know how "precious" it is to have a child of their own (genetically).

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How so true mellon! Those who have it do not realize what they have as much as those who don’t!

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Originally Posted by Shekhar

Having experienced this heavenly relationship, I suggested that it is simple straightforward solution for childless couples, if only they change their mindset on adoption vis-a-vis having genetic offspring. This is where paradigm shift comes in. If they are bent upon having genetic offspring inspite of their natural inability to produce a baby, ruling out adoption, then they must be ready to face the complications and difficulties.

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Shekhar, I am sure you understand that is an immense responsibility to parent a child. While I admit that your view is one that I would personally embrace, I wish to disagree on your characterization of childless couple who resort to other options as being "bent upon having a genetic offspring inspite of their natural inability". This is a rather unkind judgment of couples already stigmatized by the society as 'barren' and 'sterile', as if the only purpose of existence is to have children. If nature didn't empower them with that faculty, is it wrong of them to acquire it through modern science and technological developments? When did we become so 'civilized' as to decide what the physiologically challenged should and should not do? Furthermore, imagine if someone half-heartedly adopts a child, so as to meet the requirements of what the high and mighty society thinks they should do, where is the interest of the child in that situation? Previously you had cited that even genetic children abuse their parents by deserting them in their old age. I am not suggesting that genetic offspring are better than adopted children. I am only saying that for some people, children mean only their own biological children and they don’t deserve caustic aspersions for their nature. It is not a simple thing, to live with infertility, the last thing they need is the scrutiny of the society in their attempts to have a child.