""LOVE MARRIAGE VS ARRANGE MARRIAGE:""

I agree guys!! Whatever the reaction maybe to the stimulus, a couple falls in love for a whole lot of reasons, Pa!! But like I said earlier, arranged marriage is simply made by parents and elders for their convenience! And in many cases, the marriage is not so much enduring but resignation to one's fate!!

We honestly do not have enough statistics of bad marriages among our conservative society to pull out a rabbit, in the 1st place!! While we maybe quick to condemn the West, at least they do try to come to an amicable solution to an irretrievable situation. And they see no shame to an admission of guilt, if things don't work out!!!

We on the other hand prefer, to bottle up our feelings, have occasional flare-ups and never truly confront the issues, sometimes till the end! Everything is dictated from start to finish. I beg to differ, when someone merely shows you a picture of an intended groom/bride and expects you to nod your head!!! No questions asked, everything is seen to!!!

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Originally Posted by nirosha sen

I beg to differ, when someone merely shows you a picture of an intended groom/bride and expects you to nod your head!!! No questions asked, everything is seen to!!!

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Hey I have no problems marrying by just having a look at the bride as long the bride is as beauty full as your avatar :lol:

After all you all say after marraige one has to COMPROMISE. At least i dont have to compromise on beauty

No shortage in beautiful Indian women, I grant you that Sandeep! :)

My posts are always negative- I don't want the others to be affected with my bitterness & negativity. My hubby is good in a lot of ways but he suddenly becomes moody- for no reason at all, for no fault of mine.

It's like we are dressed to go outside- He'll be on the comp downloading or cleaning the virus or whatever. And because of this, we get delayed and then he loses his temper (not violent or anything- just moody) ...............GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'M GETTING SO SICK OF THIS MOODINESS. What did I do to deserve this?????

Next time,try being late yourself :wink: .He will get the message.Read 'the taming of the shrew' by Shakespeare.You'll get some valuable points. :twisted:

I have studied that play in school- nothing will change, blahblah.
He'll get MOODIER, that's all!

Veena,

I have sent a mail to u plz check...

And dont worry..be here in the hub regularly...... be cheerful... forget ur problems... pack up all ur negatives and bad moods... we feel lonely when we believe there is no one around for us... you will never have that thought if u are here regularly....

LIFE IS WHAT YOU BELIEVE:

IF U BELIEVE UR LIFE IS MISERABLE, IT WUD BECOME SO.... JUST BELIEVE UR LIFE IS BLESSED AND BEGIN LAUGH OUT UR WORRIES...BE CHEERFUL...BE HAPPY.... AND SEE HOW THE LIFE OF PPL AROUND U TOO IS CHANGED....

Do not keep worrying about the obstacles and problems in ur life... no problem is born without a solution... do not blame the problem..they are doing very much good to you... u will know that later... the next time u have a problem..dont blame it..look for the solution hiding behind it... and keep smiling :)

Neglect the negatives... Thank God for the positives..

We do not expect another sad post from you... why are we all here for?... Welcome to the world of fun, knowledge, warmth, and care...

Luv Lots of....

Cindy.

Certain things which we find are very important maybe not so for others...and vice versa... but start enjoying them... then the life is full of entertainements... when u get time later... thank them and explain the "fun" u had with their gesture... and remember it happens in every one's life...

you know what I was very particular about birthdays and anniversaries... the first birthday after our wedding was his... and i gave him a surprise gift... i was embarassed to see him checking the quality and asking me the bill for that ...etc even without a thanx or a smile.... then came my birthday... when in the morning my parents and friends began calling me he asked what is the "visesham"...when i replied its my birthday... the answer was limited to.."Oh is it?" and he went to office... in the evening ...things were as usual... and that made me mad.. not even a birthday wish.. .. i reminded him that he forgot its my b'day... he said, "no i know it is ur b'day.."
and u dint get me anything?..(weeping)
dint get u anything?..what do u want?...
anything...at least a chocolate wud have done ...
Hey..dont be silly..if it was chocolate that u wanted..u could've bought it na...or u should have reminded me when i was going to office.... maturity..little more maturity..now do u want me to go out to get u chocolates??????

:shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:
not on that day...but later...I tried to explain..and we both laughed a lot on that incident ...at the end.. i thought now he understands....

then came our anniversary... and again i bought him a surprise gift. he was just returning from his trip on that day... as he came.. i wished him many happy returns and gave him this gift..and this time he was very happy and thanked me for remembering all the dates...but dint wish me back or gimme anything..... i went mad again, but dint show it out... later in the night ...he whispered... u know what.... i should appreciate ur memory... i dint "remember" it was my birthday until u wished me... thank you so much .... :shock:

what do u guys expect me to say...hmmm... I said...Good...at least now u remembered... the next day i said it was our anniversary and not his birthday...

Just have fun...life is like that... it does not mean that he/she does not love you....

When one of my cousin was getting married... we were all giving him tips on married life... and my husband announced...boy, the first thing u should do is to jot down her date of birth in all ur handbooks, reminders, and office clipboard... and remember to wish her on that day.... it is a crime to forget that date... and that day i came to know that it has happened to many not only me..'coz many came to me asking...so that happened to u too?

I just don't understand why some guys are so insensitive :? .I can be sure that all men are not like that 8) .No doubt,there are some dumb fellows :roll: .