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selvakumar,
LUST means DESIRE. physical pleasure sought from sexual indulgence. CHECK THE DIC MEANING DUDE.
1. (1) lecherousness, lust, lustfulness -- (a strong sexual desire)
2. (1) lust, luxuria -- (self-indulgent sexual desire (personified as one of the deadly sins))
"kaathal enum ENNam" threadil(poetry section) barani intha subjecttai adiththu thuvaiththu kaayappOttathai kaaNka!
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Originally Posted by Shakthiprabha
I would request you to do the same with love also. IMHO, Dictionary alone cannot throw a light into this matter. I can show you many popular dictionaries which have defined the meaning in the other way reg love.
here is the sample.
http://dictionary.cambridge.org/defi...7427&dict=CALD
to have strong feelings of affection for another adult and be romantically and sexually attracted to them, or to feel great affection for a friend or person in your family:
The fundamental definition of love itself will get a beating if u go by the dictionary.
IMHO, We should view these matters practically.
http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=love
I) A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.
A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance.
Sexual passion.
Sexual intercourse.
A love affair. An intense emotional attachment, as for a pet or treasured object.
A person who is the object of deep or intense affection or attraction; beloved. Often used as a term of endearment.
An expression of one's affection: Send him my love.
II)
To have a deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward (a person): We love our parents. I love my friends.
To have a feeling of intense desire and attraction toward (a person).
To have an intense emotional attachment to: loves his house.
To embrace or caress.
To have sexual intercourse with.
Love might initially appear to be without lust. However, nature (biology) has different plans. Lust is dormant in the cases where love appears to be without lust, just waiting to surface given the right stimuli, environment and mindset. At a subconscious level, lust is always there. Both are different, but while lust can obviously exist without love, in the case of love, (the repressed) lust eventually catches up.
my 2 cents..:)
of course love can exist without lust..that is the love u have for ur parents,siblings,friends etc...but love for a person's bf,gf,husband,wife,partner has to have some lust thrown in.They can be as old 80 and still feel that elusive emotion.IMO lust is any need to touch another person.It def could be just the holding of hands or an arm around the shoulder.This feeling is special to couples.One usually does not do that to ur parents or siblings.Its reserved to that one special person in your life.I think that is lust too in a way.I also think this lust is what differenciates all other relationships from that of a husband and wife/gf and bf/partners :).
'found this part of ur 2 cents good, SS! :clap: :DQuote:
Originally Posted by ssanjinika
So wud this be like, 1 3/4 cents.....hmm....I think......:roll:
'was never good at Maths! :P :lol:
Btw, wait.....jus a 2nd thot- wud a momentary crush on sumone also come under the same category of love w/ lust thrown in?? :?
Ther r cases wher ppl. having a crush on sumone dont hav lust on them.....rather they eventually go to the extent of wishing 4 tat person's family's well-being etc.! :)
what is a momentary crush lamby??
Just a pure affection for another person..without any thought of spending time with that person?U mean to tell me that when ur infatuated with a person u dont give anythot to spending the rest of ur life with that person? And if u do ..what do u propose to be doing for the rest of ur life with that person?Initial Attraction based on sight is a form of physical attraction rite?Neways a crush cannot be classified as love rite?
Hmm.....r u sure abt tat? :)Quote:
Originally Posted by ssanjinika
Well, as for momentary crush I meant like the "puppy love" or teenage crushes we hav tat seem to last only during tat phase & normally tend to die out.....in most cases of teenage ther wud be lust playing a major role in such crushes but I reckon tat may be bcos of the hormonal effect @ tat age rather than deliberate? :huh:
I donno how common this cud be, I was actually saying this from my personal experience wher at tat age I once had a crush on sumone but never had ne thots abt spending my life/time w/ her wenever I thot of/saw her......as tat 'crush' grew past my adolescence, I found it was hardly based on lust.....or maybe bcos in my mind I'd resolved not to think of her in tat way, feeling tat it was wrong.......?
However to this day I do wish tat I hav a wife who is like her in appearance/attire/attitude but again, honestly no lust in my thots abt her in this regard.....rather I find myself wishing for her husband's/children's well-being etc. wen I think of her.....! :)
Hence my qsn......:)
My two cents.
Love is inward, unconditional and stable. The people you love you always love them even after years and even after feuds and ruffles. Lust is more outward, fluctuates since its conditional based on material and sexual things and even jealousy.
And I find the definitions put forward by Selva, very interesting:
http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=love
I) A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.
A love affair. An intense emotional attachment, as for a pet or treasured object.
A person who is the object of deep or intense affection or attraction.