Marriage.....

Srdhar,

I agree with u. :)

I should however say, I DID NOT HAVE ANY CRAP THOUGHTS like how many of u may conceive looking at my post :D

What I used to initially think was,
STAY COMMITTED TO one person.
BUT not necessrily under the name of MARRIAGE (for thats society's way to bind us...... and society CANNOT bind our moral values. it should come out from our own thoughts)

Even if u are living together STAY COMMITTED to that single person and DO NOT CALL IT QUITS, unless until its absolutely mandatory (which is kinda solution to many marriages in india, where the spouse ACTUALLY PUTS UP WITH ANOTHER WITHOUT ANYTHING CALLED LOVE )

but even that(staaying commited to one person)....now I realise...... that,
its better to be under the system of MARRIAGE.

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We should be proud to live in India atleast for this culture and marriage!

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oh u bet!

WE ARE PROUD and THANKFUL to be INDIANS. :) :thumbsup:

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Originally Posted by Sanguine Sridhar

There should be some difference between Dogs,Pigs and Humans! :)

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Well,

the so called intellect to decide WHAT IS RIGHT AND WHAT IS WRONG.

more than MORALS (which I feel cannot be governed by anybody BUT OUR INNER SELVES)

I would not call anybody who dont follow morals as BAD PPL.
I just feel sad for them for.........

they KNOW NOT WHAT IS HAPPINESS :(
and WHAT HAPPINESS WE GET BY ABIDING TO MORALS.

MORALS are not laid down rules WHICH NEED TO BE ABIDED beucase of fear............ BUT IT NEEDS TO BE ABIDED BECAUSE....
BY ABIDING IT WE WOULD FIND OURSELVES happy and peaceful.

I FEEL,

our ancestors HAVE GIVEN US THE BEST TREASURE to make us happy.

If we switch on to find happiness, in UMPTEEN PLACES....
we would land up, sick, tired, sad, remorseful, and.............. pathetic.

the self-contentment, satisfaction and bliss IS NOT SEARCHING FOR more happiness OUT SIDE WITH YET ANOTHER WOMAN OR PARTNER OR SEX...........

BUT

in our own mind and its quietitude.

Living together system is not possible in India and not needed!

What is the meaning of living together? At some point of time if you dont like your partner you can say Goodbye,very easily.If you are under marriage bond you cant do it that easy!

If you are choosing living together then things like Porumai,Sagipputhanmai will die!

Sticking to a single person till end of your life is noway possible if you are not married to that person!

Marriage gives you security,happiness,relations,enjoyment,sadness etc., Idhu thaaney vaazhkai!

People who says that i have everything without marriage, can skip my post.I respect that person only if he says this at his age of 70! :)

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Originally Posted by Sanguine Sridhar

Sticking to a single person till end of your life is noway possible if you are not married to that person!

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HMM..

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Marriage gives you security,happiness,relations,enjoyment,sadness etc., Idhu thaaney vaazhkai!

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not necessarily.

MARRIAGELESS life (without live-in or sexual life) but ORIENTED towards service OF HUMANITY OR BETTER WORTHY CAUSE, IS THE BEST LIFE.

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People who says that i have everything without marriage, can skip my post.I respect that person only if he says this at his age of 70!

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There are. But such ppl, DID NOT STAY WITHOUT MARRIAGE to live in a relationship.

BUT TOOK to social service or WORTHIER CAUSE. THey can stay happy.

for they have LOVE.
love for HUMANITY.

If you talk about Humanity that is a different topic KM! They are special persons! A.P.J Abdul Kalam,Kamarajar,Mother Theresa or Vivekanandhar.

But we are ordinary Homo sapiens.We have all desires,dislikes! Marriage is an occasion designed for disciplinary life! Its upto your conscience to make it more lively and enjoyable!

KM you talked abt 70+ I am curious to know about their past! :)

Why sridhar?

u feel their decision would be out of frustration or otherwise ANYTHING not voluntary?

Believe me, there are many who wanna life like that, AND ARE HAPPY TO LIVE TILL 70 TO SAY they did not regret it :)

and yes I mentioned that for special ppl.

if you take the case of normal ppl, who volunteered to stay without marriage (out of compulsion, i.e. having the will and desire to get married and lead a normal life, yet could not be blessed with the same)

then THERE WOULD BE REGRETS

Everything looks good till you go closer KM! If you dig the personals of bachelors you might loose the fame or name of them! Anyways! Lets forget this! The above said details are my views! :)

ah well...

:)

everything is a part of everybody's life aint not? :)

mahaan aanaa kooda avanga life laiyum.....

u would get diff kinds of experiences to learn :)

nobody is spared of anything

kudos to Sridhar's views! :2thumbsup: