appo unmaiya sollunga neenga mabbula thana irukeenga :lol2:Quote:
Originally Posted by rachel
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appo unmaiya sollunga neenga mabbula thana irukeenga :lol2:Quote:
Originally Posted by rachel
Ok..u know how u said "Tamil guys are narrow minded, because they expect their wives to be a virgin, and in other countries that they don't." And I said, that it's their culture to have Pre M Sex, that's why they don't care...it's not ours..Quote:
Originally Posted by rachel
And u said: We aren't talking about Prem Sex.
So...I saying, that unless the situation is that the girl got raped...I don't see why it's narrow minded to a man to ask for his wife to be a virgin... :)
athukkum meLa :roll:Quote:
Originally Posted by villan007
Rachel's reply : Who caresQuote:
Originally Posted by Surya
:lol: :lol: :lol:
surya... get ready with another explanation for this post ( just in case :rotfl: )Quote:
Originally Posted by Surya
Thanks for your concern, but far from it. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by great
no...when i watch these tamil films living in western countries and seeing white people's care free independent life style, it's so confusing...Quote:
Originally Posted by kb
Tamil culture > English culture 8-)
Rachel, eagerly awaiting for ur reply to suryas post :oops:
:lol: If she doesn't care then why make those comments agianst tamil guys and Culture? :?
TB, :lol2: I think she got this one. :) but....just in case...:lol2:
wokie :thumbsup:Quote:
Originally Posted by ab_123
oh oh !!! Then you are a confused desi . Try to stick to one culture ie Tamil which is THE best in the world . Dont assume things :thumbsup:Quote:
Originally Posted by rachel
I agree with what you said. And I think the reverse should also be true, though. Every woman should also expect the same from their husband. What do the guys say to this?Quote:
Originally Posted by Surya
let me understand hispost first..Quote:
Originally Posted by great
that's true but we weren't argueing about that.. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by ab_123
yeah!! its also confusing for us after staying in TN and coming to western countries..Quote:
Originally Posted by rachel
enna polappuda karumam... dinner saaptutu desert saaapidara maathiri aayepochi :oops: :oops: :banghead: :banghead: :banghead:
I agree, Both males and Femals should be..but we were mainly talking about the guy's expectaion of his wifes Virginity. :)
Rach did u see the explanation? :)
We're talking about culture aren't we? That too, regarding Pre MaritalQuote:
Originally Posted by Thunderbird
...
My point being, if the guy has intentionally saved himself till marriage, it is fair to have those expectations. If not, then it's a double standard.
kadasiyilla moonu dot vacheenga illa.. anga thaan tamil culture nikkuthu.. athu tamil ponnu illa payanukku azhaguQuote:
Originally Posted by ab_123
Who cares about the whites?? Do they even have a culture to begin with?!?Quote:
Originally Posted by Rach
About 75% of the girls loose their virginity in College...About 90% of the guys loose it when they are step foot into college.
About 50% of their marriages end in divorces....There is no such thing as white culture...
the only ppl that claim that there was a white culture are the insane knights of the Ku Klux Klan. :huh:
What cultural value to they have for us to compare ourselves with them?!?
in tamil culture there is only 1 option..one man -one woman...Quote:
Originally Posted by ab_123
if anybody messed up with this concept, life'd be soon over for them..especially for girls...
surya , thats rite :clap: :clap:
but in english culture.. one person's life is spoiled even before she gets married.. that's a sad story :( ...Quote:
Originally Posted by rachel
yeah..narrow minded tamil guys :evil:Quote:
Originally Posted by Surya
Rach,
If u are going to make a claim...back it up with some points...what is ur point? What is ur evidence, what made u come to that decision??
Do u think both men and women should be sleeping around after they get out of High School like the HOLY WHITE PEOPLE do? :?
rach.. it s respect given for a relationship called marraige..
narrow minded opinion :)Quote:
Originally Posted by rachel
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Originally Posted by rachel
Dont generalise ur comment. what do you mean by the term Narrow minded tamil guys or you from third world countries or Neptune/Jupiter/Mars. Do you mean to say if we accept for pre-marital we are BROAD MINDED guys , give me a break :evil:
Thanks great! :) :P
Ok...I still have no idea WHY She's saying what she is in the first place.....Lets give rachel to post her ideas on this first....
Rach,
Just tell us why u feel that tamil guys are narrow minded...don't just say we are....say why u think we are...K? :)
It's idiotic to form an opinion based on films :( ... films are exaggerrated 8-)
Rach if u think like this then any french women can tell americans as narrow minded guys..
becoz in france they are more Broad minded.. :oops:
Kb,
Even in india, there are some broad minded areas...:oops: :lol2:
virginity is a big deal in tamil culture. isn't it :lol: ...why do you guys make it a big deal? :lol:Quote:
Originally Posted by Surya
in tamilculture man is not equal to woman.
divorce...yeah..what's wrong with it?
tamilla than 'kaal annalum purushan, pul annalum purushan' endu sooli ethanai women azhuraanga... :oops:
divorce paana who'd marry them?
:rotfl:
Wait a sec....
Because it is part of our culture..unlike some ppl, we take pride in our culture, because we know that it's one of the most superior and ancient cultures in the world. What's wrong in it?Quote:
Originally Posted by Rach
U STILL HAVEN'T SAID WHY U THINK THAT IT'S NARROW MINDED TO EXPECT A WIFE TO BE A VIRGIN!! :huh:
There is a difference between divorcing a guy because he is abusive, and there is a difference between divorcing a guy because u (Not u...just a person) got tired of him in bed. Take a look @ the divorces that take place in the US, u'll see why most of them happen. :roll:Quote:
Originally Posted by Rach
Ethule? Mega Seriel-liya? :?Quote:
Originally Posted by Rach
Actually, there are many who do leave their husbands for being abusive alcoholics..etc...no one is opposing that. Infact, there are organization which help women like that in TN itself.
I am a woman, and I completely disagree with you Rachel.
Even in the US, they are promoting the concept of "Abstenance", right from High school.
This is as a result of:
Teen pregnancies
STDs
Abortions
Abadonments
I think women need to respect themselves, and their bodies more than not giving any value to something that should only be shared with someone you love. And if you do love them that much, why not commit to that one person?
RACHEL, YOU ARE LIKE FROG IN THE WELL
PADAM PAATHU KETTU PONA KUTTUTHAKKU NEE THAN THALAIVI 8-)
Actually, we are drifting away here...
The main point:
Why is it that u think guys that expect their wives to be virgins = Narrow Minded-ness? :?
Let's not get into culture unless we have to...
no explanation for that statement? :?
:evil:
Rachel, you know during Navarathiri in north india ... pregnancy rates will be on raise. Do you mean to say these matters are to be proud at. ITS SHAME