Love vs lust

recently we did a program comparing love and lust .. we came up with a conclusion that :-

love :) :D
is eternal
part of a duty of a lover /partner
unconditional

lust :evil: :twisted:
material
temporary
more physical

would like to hear your views

Love is what we talk.
Lust is what we do.

sandeep,

:roll:

what a way to put across !

SP,

Isnt it true, we go on Ga-Ga about love is that, love is this. But if you see around all you see is Lust.

Will definitely grow up to know LOVE!!!

Hi Sandeep,

I don't accept your views. Tell me aged people, people above 60 years, don't they love their Husbands/ wives???
Love is a feeling towards the other person without expecting any rewards, its a wish to be with the other person, to live the whole life with that person, if there is any other expectation other than this then its not LOVE, if the expectation is only physical then its lust.
I know a friend of mine who was in love with a girl for 8 years and got married some months back, they never got physical all these years till they got married, this is a classic example of true love.

The relationship between mother and child is also called love, Mother does all the things without any expectations from the child....

Chappani,
Going by your opinion, I would like the title to be more specific.

May be like KAADHAL Vs Kaamam

ROMANACE (find a suitable term) vs LUST

Sandeep,

I go with chappani's view.

yup.... LOVE is the ultimate goal.
We get carried away in between with LUST.

love can exist without lust.
lust can exist without love too

they both are NOT interdependant.

what we see around us IS JUST A PHYSICAL FORM OF LOVE.

love is much more than that.

love is care, affection, indepth feeling which one soul gives another (not necessarily a hus and wife or lovers)

LUST sometimes grows and flowers into love

SOMETIMES sadly withers off........ as JUST LUST.

lust is NOT GREAT (AS EVEN ANIMALS POSSESS IT)

love IS A QUALITY OF MEN.

Kaadhal Vs Kaamam is the right way to put it ... guess that was selva ....

Ya Chappani is right ....

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Love is a feeling towards the other person without expecting any rewards,

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Then where does the concept of Boy friend n girl friend ....

If u have a Boy/ Girl friend -> do u have them for love / lust .... i know ppl would say neither of them ! but think deeply, n apply the concept of dating between friends .... what do u call that as ?

atleast in cosmo places like US n even bangalore ????

u should have added one more option nothing :wink:

bg,

boy or girl friend can ALSO mean.........


JUST FRIENDS. :roll:

I dont get that Bg,
Having a BF / GF could be in search of Love or it could be in search of Lust too.Or they could be going around just for the heck of it.Ultimately they could be searching for just one of the 2 or both :roll:

Sanjinika ....
u have the answers for all types of expectations ....

Shakthi ...
i guess i ve already mentioned that .... they can be friends .... i am talking about the expectation beyond that, a date ......

hmmm

A typical date.. (in all sense) I think expectation would be for BOTH. :roll:

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Originally Posted by Shakthiprabha

hmmm

A typical date.. (in all sense) I think expectation would be for BOTH. :roll:

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I get to see these dates quite often...........I have seen smooching in Public......well ultimately where does it all end?????? :roll:

Love lasts for a long and lust for a short while. But both are impressive.

"Love vs Lust"

Taking Love as Romance my vote still goes for Lust wining it over.

Yes as PP mentioned "Will definitely grow up to know LOVE". Shall I say the relationship develops from Lust to Love over a long period of time.

If the lust is with your love then no issues... But if your love changes every month then that is ofcourse an issue :roll:

:lol:

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Originally Posted by 1&only

Love lasts for a long and lust for a short while. But both are impressive.

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:roll: hmnn

Love blossoms like a flower :D

Lust arises like a FUMING WAVE from hot water..:roll:

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Originally Posted by Sanguine Sridhar

If the lust is with your love then no issues... But if your love changes every month then that is ofcourse an issue :roll:

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I think that the topic never suggests you to correlate with your loved ones..

It just discusses both the things..

But Lust plays a great role in improving the love on the loved one.

Love is a A strong positive emotion
Lust is a A strong desire !

Lust is selfish
Love is commitment

:roll: :) :D :lol:

:rotfl:

nice definitions by all of you.

CREATIVE. UNIQUE :lol:

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RP, well where does dating lead?

hmm... I supp with the current life style...
its leads sometimes to lust. :roll:

I pose a question here.

WITH exhibitionism not in practise in older gen or centuries back,

u think THEY INDULGED ONLY IN LOVE?
OR GAVE IMPORTANCE TO LOVE AND IF NECESARY WAIT FOR THE OCCASION TO SHOW LUST.

I DOUBT it.

[quote="Shakthiprabha"]:rotfl:

nice definitions by all of you.

CREATIVE. UNIQUE :lol:

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RP, well where does dating lead?

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I feel That the parental guidance and involvement with a child helps decide whether it will end in LOVE or LUST........It is not VE in love but WE

knock knock whos here?

:oops: :oops: :oops: :oops: am i allowed in this thread???? :oops:

cant believe lust has 6 votes... :shock:

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Originally Posted by Sanguine Sridhar

If the lust is with your love then no issues... But if your love changes every month then that is ofcourse an issue :roll:

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No.. No.. it is the other way round. You get issues only when there is lust.

If you could produce issues by love without lust, My God, what would have happened!!! (parents of girls would have had real tough time!!) :lol: :lol: :lol:

:rotfl:

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Originally Posted by Shekhar

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Originally Posted by Sanguine Sridhar

If the lust is with your love then no issues... But if your love changes every month then that is ofcourse an issue :roll:

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No.. No.. it is the other way round. You get issues only when there is lust.

If you could produce issues by love without lust, My God, what would have happened!!! (parents of girls would have had real tough time!!) :lol: :lol: :lol:

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Very funny Shekar :D :roll:

aha RP.

Many here pronounce it as loWE only not love :lol: (kidding)

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Gaayu, why are u shocked cause lust is scoring less :roll:

I am shocked that it has 6 votes! i was expecting no votes at all for lust!

I think in perfect relationship between a couple, you need a little bit of love and lust. Definitely, love is far more important to strengthen the relationship and make it last forever. But, lust is part of love....i don't think you can separate the two.....

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Originally Posted by Sinthiya

I think in perfect relationship between a couple, you need a little bit of love and lust. Definitely, love is far more important to strengthen the relationship and make it last forever. But, lust is part of love....i don't think you can separate the two.....

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I agree with you that we cannot separate the two. IMHO, Love makes the people connected for a long period of time. But during the initial years, it is the lust that increases their love life. Though lust has little presence when compared to love, that little presence indirectly influence the love on the concerned person. My point is : Lust has an indirect impact in increasing the love on a particular person. I am talking about pure love and the lust that is connected with it. I am not referring the plain lust that we can have on anybody. Ultimately, during the initial bonding, lust dominates love and opens the doors the pure love.

There can exist love without lust.
I mean pure unadulterated shudh love WITH ZERO lust

I agree with Shakti,

Selva, I think the other way, I feel its the love that fuels lust. Just tell me can you spend time with any girl on street to satisfy your lust??? just think over.
Even for the first time, I feel its the love that takes lead and the lust just follows especially in relationships.

chappani :) :thumbsup:

LOVE without lust, is so powerful that it ....... can win over ALMOST anything.

:)

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Originally Posted by Chappani

Selva, I think the other way, I feel its the love that fuels lust. Just tell me can you spend time with any girl on street to satisfy your lust??? just think over.
Even for the first time, I feel its the love that takes lead and the lust just follows especially in relationships.

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Beg to differ reg street girl. If u do have a look at the street girl,(A girl in a street accidently), definitly love+lust will dominate. But lust will dominate the love. Only over a period of time, you can depict your love or feel it. Initally, it is the lust that fuels the love. But I believe that both of them can never be separated.

In relationships, definitly both the things will try to dominate. But it is the lust that adds fuel to the fire.. and makes it a complete one(love). Your point is applicable in the long run. I have seen many people(pairs) losing their love in this busy life, but yet depict their love at odd times through lust. so, lust plays a great role in developing / bringing out the love that we have on a particular person.

No Selva, it looks like your quotes are by looking at others, may be you are still not in a position to quote from your personal experiences.

There is an Aunt of mine, her Husband has some physical disablity and there was no sex life between them. But they had lots of love for each other in their prime, even now though quite old enough they are taking care of each other so very affectionatly.

Tell me why do you give a new perpective to the Man Woman relationship, can't it be an extension of friendship??? You should be having friends from you school/college days, This is also love and did lust fuel this relationship??? just think over...

"Love" and "lust" are something like "likeness" and "Hunger".
Passikki Rusi teriyaadu is fine, when you are hungry all eatables on Earth will be tasty. But many things are tasty even when we are not Hungry... :)