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13th August 2006, 03:33 PM
#1
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'Crush' trouble again! Advice needed, folks!
"The best form is no form." - Bruce Lee
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13th August 2006 03:33 PM
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14th August 2006, 02:11 AM
#2
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Bipolar: you haven't done anything bad and you are not a bad person, everyone goes through this phase of having a crush on someone!
Do you think you want the girl to know how you feel, if you don't want her to know and if you don't want to do anything about this feeling (crush) of yours, then you can just tell her that you were going through a difficult phase and that is why you avoided her. You don't have to explain anything else to her. This is what I feel, others may have a different opinion.
The moment will arrive when you are comfortable with who you are, and what you are--when you don't feel the need to apologize for anything or to deny anything. To be comfortable in your own skin is the beginning of strength.
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14th August 2006, 03:53 AM
#3
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pani thuli..pani thuli.....
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14th August 2006, 05:34 AM
#4
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Anoushka is right. It would be easy to email or right a letter to her explaining the situation.
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14th August 2006, 06:54 AM
#5
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Bipolar, getting crushes or infatuations is a normal thing..the thing is you are feeling abit too insecure about your crush and letting your feelings take over you..relax and let us take it slowly.
Let us remember that there is no sin in talking to a girl whom we like. Its our feelings and we cant hide it in forever or else we will feel more nervous..more insecure and it will eventually make us "weak" in handling such situations.
Just start off with a simple hi...how are you and imagine your crush to be like your mother. It will be tough if you see your crush as a stranger so its best you think of someone close to your heart as her to help with your confidence during speech. While you start talking you will slowly be able to move on to your subject without trouble as the toughest stage is just getting to talk to her.
If a girl feels awkward because you talked to her..it does not mean she feels you are bad or anything. It is either that they feel uncomfortable by the way you talk nervously or they too might be having feelings about you. If a girl thinks your bad she will avoid you and abit more angry when she starts a coversation so dunt be too hasty to conclude that she thinks your bad.
Trying to write her a letter might work..but the thing is you will still feel uncomfortable when you see her face to face
as in your speech will sound very nervous. It is best you talk this out with her. As i said just think of her like your mother or someone you have known for a long time and it will not disturb your speech with her.
First relax and remember that the reason why you feel like your bad is because your feeling abit tensed and insecure about not being able to talk to her...do not let your feelings get to you..think of happier things and perhaps try to have abit more lighter and happier approach to your crush...i assure you it will help you.
Hope your crush will succeed into love..all the best Bipolar
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14th August 2006, 07:03 AM
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Bipolar, by your own admission, you call it a crush.
The meaning of the word "crush" is Temporary love of an adolescent
Granted you are no adolescent, but before you rush into it, first analyse and see if it love or merely a crush. Crushes have the habit of fading away and it will gain neither you nor the girl anything to rush into it, even talking to her about it.
I would suggest you take some time, analyse the way you feel about her vis-a-vis other girls and if you still have strong feelings for her, then and only then to approach her on this subject.
In the meantime, it is good to cultivate a friendship with her, without giving any indications of your crush on her, as that might intimidate her or put her off or even land you deeper into something that you might later regret, if it turns out to be only a passing crush and not genuine love.
Let good sense prevail for that is the best foundation for a good, solid relationship that is then built out of love.
When we stop labouring under the delusion of our cosmic self-importance, we are free of hindrance, fear, worry and attachment. We are liberated!!!
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14th August 2006, 07:12 AM
#7
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Crush is not determined by age..it may come to anybody at any point of their life..if you do have a sort of different style of feelings about someone you will get this infatuation. Btw crush is not temporary love...it is a sort of emotions that might either lead to love or die off..like a sort of presumed attraction.
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14th August 2006, 07:21 AM
#8
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I merely quoted the dictionary meaning of the word Crush, Chandrasekhar. In the English language, this is what Crush means. See here http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crush
and here http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=crush&db=* (see the 5th entry under noun form)
If that is not what you mean, then I would suggest you use a different word, and not try and attempt to re-define the meaning of the word.
When we stop labouring under the delusion of our cosmic self-importance, we are free of hindrance, fear, worry and attachment. We are liberated!!!
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14th August 2006, 07:30 AM
#9
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We cant all determine the meanings of feelings...it is like a maze..many complications that can be related to one another. It is like saying life is a process of events that happens till a human passes away when we know that is lot more inside. These meanings or definitions are more like a general perception of what they might be which is agreed by a majority not a definite answer. Sometimes we have to be logical and try to look into such things to see if that is what they really are rather than merely following what is written. Remember it was written by humans..not by GOD
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14th August 2006, 02:23 PM
#10
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Bipolar,
hm iam think its better if u talk to her about how and what u feel. lets just hope it goes well
Anbe Sivam
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